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Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: Bravo on August 11, 2008, 03:58:56 pm
Until recently, perhaps 30 years ago, homosexuality was seen as a mental disorder. Now? Obviously not. If anyone says different, everyone, fucking EVERYONE jumps on them and says, "no its not he's just a sinner he's completely normal!" Now, however, pedophilia is seen as being what homosexuality was. Quote wikipedia: "As a medical diagnosis, it is defined as a psychological disorder in which an adult experiences a sexual preference for prepubescent children and has engaged or may engage in child sexual abuse;" Myself, being an ignorant teenager with an opinion on things, thinks that this is just stupid.

There was actually a thread here a couple months ago in which pedophilia was discussed, and I "defended" it by saying, no its not a disorder. Of course, I got jumped on by a couple of people, but since that thread didn't exchange facts, rather only blows, I didn't learn anything. The purpose of this thread is not to incite, bait, or upset; rather this is a serious attempt to learn. My problem with classifying pedophilia as a disorder is that I don't see any cause for it other than people viewing it as distasteful and wanting to sweep it under the rug (same with gays until recently amirite).

Potential arguments you guys may have:
-How DARE you compare homosexuality and pedophilia!
Why not? Its the closest comparison I think humanity has. Both are/were seen as unsavory differences in our society and thus had "treatment centers" opened for them. There's (usually) christian led gay camps trying to turn people straight. And "[a]lthough pedophilia has no cure at this time, various treatments are available that are aimed at reducing or preventing the expression of pedophilic behavior, reducing the prevalence of child sexual abuse. Treatment of pedophilia often requires collaboration between law enforcement and health care professionals. A number of proposed treatment techniques for pedophilia have been developed, though the success rate of these therapies has been very low." (wikipedia) So please, give me a reason to not compare them while staying your anger.

-Pedophilia is a disgusting act which takes advantage of innocent children! How can you possibly support it?
I don't.

-Pedophilia is a disorder because pedophiles can not function in society.
This may be true, I don't know because I haven't had any information on this statement's validity. A possible counterargument would be that pedophiles are not ALL going to rape a child given the chance. Its more likely to happen than not perhaps because our society has placed such a stigma against this act that they have no other possible release. Also, is rape of an adult different? Is the rapist a fully functioning member of society? I think not. Something I'm not sure of however is whether this form of rape is seen as a mental disorder (not likely) or is it just viewed as an isolated crime which must be punished because rape is rape and there's no reason to look into the deeper psychological aspects as to why this person raped someone but say they did it for lust and a feeling of power? (this option)

To close, I suppose my view is the same as that of pro-pedophilia activist Frits Bernard: the "acceptance of pedophilia as a sexual orientation rather than a psychological disorder." ...ew I have the same opinion as a pedo!
edit: I've been proven wrong, Lets call it a fetish instead.
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: HL on August 11, 2008, 04:05:32 pm
It's not a sexual orientation.

Sexual orientation is what genders you sexually attracted to. Children are not a gender, they have a gender but there is no gender called Children.

Pedophilia is a Paraphilia - "a condition in which a human's sexual arousal and gratification depends upon fantasizing about and engaging in sexual behavior that is atypical and extreme, is "distinguished by a preoccupation with the object or behavior to the point of being dependent on that object or behavior for sexual gratification," and dependent upon the individual acting on said urges "with a non-consenting person or the urges, sexual fantasies, or behaviors cause marked distress or interpersonal difficulty”.
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: cowardknower on August 11, 2008, 04:10:07 pm
Ugh.  Pedophilia is considered wrong because children are A) not physically developed B ) not world wise/intelligent enough/etc to make decisions for themselves in many respects.  They can't give informed consent because most kids just aren't at a place mentally where they could really BE informed.

So the problem with it is that it is pretty unequivocally harmful and etc, both physically and psychologically.

Anyway, is this a troll post?  It has to be a troll post.

It's not a sexual orientation.

Sexual orientation is what genders you sexually attracted to. Children are not a gender, they have a gender but there is no gender called Children.

Pedophilia is a Paraphilia - "a condition in which a human's sexual arousal and gratification depends upon fantasizing about and engaging in sexual behavior that is atypical and extreme, is "distinguished by a preoccupation with the object or behavior to the point of being dependent on that object or behavior for sexual gratification," and dependent upon the individual acting on said urges "with a non-consenting person or the urges, sexual fantasies, or behaviors cause marked distress or interpersonal difficulty”.

I think hes saying that homosexuality USED to be considered a paraphilia as well and now its an orientation.  Our buddy bravo is trying to make the case that pedophilia and homosexuality should BOTH be considered orientations.
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: Cheshire Cat on August 11, 2008, 04:15:39 pm
I think it's pretty essential you distinguish between a paedophile and a sexual predator type here.

I don't think people being attracted to kids is wrong. I find the idea pretty weird and hard to relate too, but i guess it's just something people have.
However, it's when people act on their feelings for children that things start getting out of hand (for the reasons listed above).
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: cowardknower on August 11, 2008, 04:28:24 pm
When someone constantly feels driven to do something awful (IE kill someone or whatever), its still considered a mental disorder isn't it?
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: HL on August 11, 2008, 04:30:25 pm
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I think hes saying that homosexuality USED to be considered a paraphilia as well and now its an orientation.  Our buddy bravo is trying to make the case that pedophilia and homosexuality should BOTH be considered orientations.

Not true if that is his case, homosexuality has basically always been considered a sexual orientation because...well...it's what a sexual orientation is. It's just been considered a wrong/terrible/sinful orientation because people are stupid. If anyone considered it a paraphilia then they are dumb. The main reason why homosexuality can't be a paraphilia is because homosexuality is not based around a non-consenting person (that is just rape if a guy has sex with a non-consenting guy) and the urges/fantasies/behaviors do not cause distress or interpersonal difficulty with the other person involved (unless if it is rape).
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: Artis Leon Ivey Jr on August 11, 2008, 04:39:52 pm
pedos are fucking sick and should be pounded into the ground, not a fake post, hope this helps.
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: Bled on August 11, 2008, 04:43:28 pm
Pedophilia should be considered a disorder if you disregard the semantic psychobabble and approach things from a more pragmatic point of view.  I think that the one thing everyone can agree upon is that it is a despicable practice that deserves absolutely no form of encouragement from anyone.  It is something that is not socially acceptable under any circumstances and is punishable by law for very good reason.  Therefore, why not treat it as a disorder? 

The one thing that I think is utterly ridiculous about this thread is the idea that pedophilia should be accepted as a sexual orientation.  I don't know what your personal definition of that phrase is and it doesn't really matter in the first place, but society warming up to the idea of child RAPE (i.e. pedophilia) would have lots of negative repercussions that are a bit too depraved to even mention.

Sexual orientation is something that is developed over time.  It's not something that BAM!  you just get it one day when you're four years old and now all of a sudden you're cool to go out and have consensual sex with someone 24 years older than you.  Most kids can't even pronounce "orientation," much less understand what it means and make an informed decision about it.  And also let's not forget the fact that lots of children look to adults as authority figures and will eventually buckle under enough pressure from someone they see as being empowered. 

Why don't you go read up on how interesting it is when people fuck COWS or something?  This discussion will probably go nowhere and I doubt many people will have the patience to hold your hand and explain fundamental truths about existence to you that you should already know.
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: dada on August 11, 2008, 04:44:59 pm
I didn't read the entire post.

As far as I'm aware, it's not entirely sure whether homosexuality and pedophilia are similar. That's because it's unknown what exactly causes either of them. For example, there seems to be a correlation between being abused as a child and exhibiting pedophilia later on in life, whereas there exists no similar correlation for homosexuality. For example, children that are raised by a homosexual couple don't seem to have a higher chance of turning out homosexual themselves. (However, it's also likely that the former example is caused by some other disorder, such as PTSD or BPD.)

One explanation I once heard is that the brain prematurely ceases or "skips" an important development that makes the individual be attracted to mature people.

You'd say, from some point of view, that since homosexuality and pedophilia both deal with sexual preference, they're likely to stem from a similar source, but I don't think that's the case. But it probably will take a while before we figure that out because of how difficult it is to accurately analyze the brain's function.

I think ASE should reply here since he's probably the only one with an educated answer.

I think that the one thing everyone can agree upon is that it is a despicable practice that deserves absolutely no form of encouragement from anyone.  It is something that is not socially acceptable under any circumstances and is punishable by law for very good reason.
By the way, I'm sure everyone knows this, but there's a difference between being a pedophile and acting upon the urge. Whenever this topic comes up, people are all too eager to speak their mind about how we should persecute pedophiles, but we kind of know those things by now. It's much more interesting to just set aside that discussion for a while and discuss the actual disorder.
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: crone_lover720 on August 11, 2008, 05:12:37 pm
what the hell

I tried to write a post but Bled's right, I don't have the patience for something like this. just because it's SEXUAL doesn't mean it should be treated as anything but a horrible mental disorder! what a weird concept.
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: ase on August 11, 2008, 05:13:29 pm
I think ASE should reply here since he's probably the only one with an educated answer.
haha what??? I don't recall ever being GW's resident neurologist or mental disorder specialist! Perhaps you are confusing me with 4DSheep or maybe Lord Kamina (or whatever Chilean it was that has a bio degree).

oh, unless you were referencing "asexual entrepreneur" ...

As for the topic at hand, I think it's ridiculous to think that pedophilia will ever take the place of homosexuality as THE taboo that is misunderstood by a great percentage of the world's population. Homosexuality was and is misunderstood and hated mostly due to religious beliefs and because of people who refuse to back down from the idea that reproduction is the only possible end of sexuality. With pedophilia, there is a universally non-subjective agreement that sexually abusing, hurting, or imagining the abuse of  children under the age of consent is disgusting, selfish, and unhealthy.
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: Lars on August 11, 2008, 05:20:41 pm
non-subjective?

i thought pedophilia has been and still is accepted in some cultures?? even IN THE WEST there are backwater places that dont really care. although arguably, ephebophilia is often misinterpreted as pedophilia idk.

but yeah i have no idea how you can call it a universally non-subjective agreement because it really isnt.
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: Kaworu on August 11, 2008, 05:32:38 pm
I think that pedophilia is very similar to being black or having red hair.
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: Feldschlacht IV on August 11, 2008, 06:23:46 pm
Given that children aren't physically or mentally fully developed to any degree and they're not fit to give consent, pedophilia is fucking terrible.

the end
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: Sludgelord on August 11, 2008, 06:32:37 pm
pedophiles aren't people.
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: Frankie on August 11, 2008, 06:41:11 pm
Why would you want to lessen the impact of the term used when referring to pedophilia?
Is there really a big difference between "fetish" paraphilia and "sexual orientation"? Isn't the latter just an euphemism of the former because it is relatively much more common, wide spread and accepted?

I see that what you mean is, the WRONG part of pedophilia is the RAPE part, not the fetish paraphilia in itself, because while raping someone is a conscious choice from the rapist to do something despicable to an unwilling victim, the URGE to do it brought by the unfortunate fetish paraphilia in itself is not a choice, just like how homosexuality or having any kind of sexual fetish paraphilia or preference or taste are not choices. Where there is no choice, there cannot be "right" or "wrong". I understand that. Okay. BBBUT...

BUT this goes for all other sexual deviations and fetishes paraphilias, so why would you want to make euphemisms for pedophilia specifically? Pedophilia is actually WORSE than pretty much all other fetishesparaphilias out there! Like, take coprophilia (scat) where people are aroused at the idea of having sex with shit (or eating it?). That might be a very disgusting fetishparaphilia, but its still between two consenting adults and does not involve rape in itself, while pedophillia is ALWAYS RAPE when performed in real life no matter the circumstances (children not being in age to control a relationship and being easy to manipulate since they view adults as role models, ETC).

So if you are going to make euphemisms about pedophilia, why not with coprophilia too? Might as well replace all other terms used for sexual fetishesparaphilia and call everything an orientation? But wouldn't that pretty much make all these terms pointless? A distinction between homosexuality and sexual fetishesparaphilia is important, giving how common and accepted homosexuality is compared to them. I don't see a need to make such a distinction with pedophilia.

EDIT: I replaced the... offending terms... by the correct one...
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: cowardknower on August 11, 2008, 06:49:52 pm
Man, what?  Sexual orientation does not mean the same thing as fetish.  Are you serious?
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: Frankie on August 11, 2008, 06:57:43 pm
Well if we are DISCUSSING SWITCHING TERMS, like if its like the term used depends on OPINION and POINT OF VIEW, then yes it does mean sexual orientation is just an euphemism for fetish.

If there is a real fundamental difference, then it means we shouldn't have this discussion at all, because then they are CATEGORIES BASED ON FACT and our opinions about it are irrelevant!
(If that's the case id like to know what that fundamental difference is though, I just don't know about it, anyone here is knowledgeable in this?)
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: HL on August 11, 2008, 07:00:05 pm
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Is there really a big difference between "fetish" and "sexual orientation"? Isn't the latter just an euphemism of the former because it is relatively much more common, wide spread and accepted?

Yes there is, no it isn't just a euphemism.

Sexual orientation is "the gender of what you are sexually attracted to or not sexually attracted to based on gender."
Fetish is "any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation."


There is a pretty big difference there, bud!
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: Frankie on August 11, 2008, 07:01:56 pm
Ah, so pedophilia isn't a fetish either? I just used the wrong term in the post? What would the right term be? I thought fetish just meant, something someone sees as sexual that isnt typically by most people, not something as specific as "OBJECT OR PART OF BODY"
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: The Illusionist on August 11, 2008, 07:02:18 pm
I think that pedophillia should never be considered a "Grey Area" as it's pretty much wrong in everyway. It's great to love children, they exist to BE loved... But you have to know your limitation. Harbouring those types of thoughts are not healthy as it will only increase your chance of try putting those thoughts into practice. What's the point of thinking something you could never practice?

There's no consent, and honestly who could you even do this with? Your own children? No other parent will let you do this unless they suffer from the same derange thoughts.
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: Kaworu on August 11, 2008, 07:03:21 pm
the right term would be mental disorder.
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Post by: Frankie on August 11, 2008, 07:07:14 pm
Ah found the correct term, its paraphilia, and not fetish. SORRY ABOUT THE GROSS MISUNDERSTANDING.....

Edit: oops no, paraphillia is only used for when its extreme I think
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: HL on August 11, 2008, 07:07:33 pm
Ah, so pedophilia isn't a fetish either? I just used the wrong term in the post? What would the right term be? I thought fetish just meant, something someone sees as sexual that isnt typically by most people, not something as specific as "OBJECT OR PART OF BODY"

Paraphilia. As I said above.

Sexual Fetishism is a paraphilia, pedophilia is a type of paraphilia, there's a shit ton of paraphilia's. A lot of people say they are "fetishes" but that isn't exactly correct. Pretty much anything related to sex that ends in ilia is a Paraphilia not a fetish.

Wikipedia has a list here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_paraphilias. It's pretty easy to see the difference between the two then.
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Post by: Frankie on August 11, 2008, 07:10:23 pm
Okay but now just read my post replacing instances of the term fetish by paraphilia I guess? Is it still UTTER NONSENSE, or are there real fundamental differences between an orientation and a paraphilia, other than MAGNITUDE?
Title: (Jerry Seinfeld voice:) What's the deal with pedophilia?
Post by: maladroithim on August 11, 2008, 07:11:07 pm
While I agree that pedophilia is disgusting and wrong and that Bravo you are INSANE . . .

Not all countries have the same age of sexual consent.  I have always wondered if countries like France (I think) are filled with pedophiles?  Cultural differences on sexuality are pretty interesting I think!

But holy shit wanting to have sex with young boys or underdeveloped girls without boobs etc is pretty gross.
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Post by: WunderBread on August 11, 2008, 07:11:26 pm
Well, there are those pedophiles that don't act on their desires, or otherwise find healthier outlets to them (drawing, writing, etc). I still find it a bit creepy, but I don't think that those "pedos" should be killed/are not people/etc. They, at least, have the common sense and self-control required for them to refrain from acting. If anything, they could get counseling for that kind of thing, if they wanted. Not all pedophiles can be thrown into the same category as child molesters.

Harbouring those types of thoughts are not healthy as it will only increase your chance of try putting those thoughts into practice. What's the point of thinking something you could never practice?
Man, this is like saying that all fiction writers EXPECT to be able to fly/develop magical powers/time travel/etc. Of course it's possible to think of things without acting upon them. Hate to draw a darker analogy, but it's not like everyone who has had murderous thoughts (and this is, like, most people) will actually end up killing someone. Just because I've imagined stealing something doesn't mean that I will. It's self-restraint, rationality, and common sense that keeps people from doing things they'll regret. I imagine closet pedophiles understand this just as well as we understand it, and avoid committing sexual crimes just as we avoid committing regular crimes.
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Post by: fatty on August 11, 2008, 07:21:04 pm
Pedophilia in the sense of actually raping kids is not a mental disorder and should not be viewed as such. EDIT: It's something much worse. Holy fuck what. I forgot what I was going to say and said something completely different along the way, sorry.

On the contrary, if you are a sick inhabitant of 4chan and fap to loli/shota 24/7, that is a somewhat different issue, which is probably what you were thinking when you made that topic. I think neither case deserves sympathy or support(okay well, at the very least the second one is somewhat less prone on actually MOLESTING CHILDREN or so I've heard but still, askjhasfkjhasfkjhsakh!).
EDIT: I partially agree with this.
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Post by: Marmot on August 11, 2008, 07:53:53 pm
pedos are fucking sick and should be pounded into the ground, not a fake post, hope this helps.

I think pedophilia is a disorder and I don't think they should be "pounded". I think pedophiles are some of the people that suffer more in the world and I think they should be helped. I think the whole PROTECT OUR CHILDREN AND FAMILIES attitude is deeply reactionary and doesn't solves the problem. Besides, not all pedos act - only some of them do.
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Post by: HL on August 11, 2008, 08:05:23 pm
Okay but now just read my post replacing instances of the term fetish by paraphilia I guess? Is it still UTTER NONSENSE, or are there real fundamental differences between an orientation and a paraphilia, other than MAGNITUDE?

Um.

There is a pretty glaring difference between the two other than magnitude. Sexual orientation is about gender, paraphilia is a subset of that. It isn't different magnitutde, it's completely different. You can be a homosexual pedophile, or a heterosexual pedophile, or a bisexual pedophile, or a straight parthenophile or a straight foot fetishist etc. Sexual orientation is the gender of what sexually turns you on, paraphilia is what you can't be without sexually/involve non consenting people/caused marked stress or interpersonal difficulty (not classified by gender), and a fetish is basically a paraphilia that is not taken to the extreme level because it is done by consenting adults and are completely safe because of that (and generally your entire sexual life isn't based around it since it isn't taken to the extreme). (obviously this isn't the exact PSYCHOLOGICAL definition but I'm simplifying it for you.)

Example so you get it:
Heterosexual: Like the opposite sex sexually. (This is a sexual orientation. You will want nothing to do with men sexually.)
Paraphilia: Pedophilia. You have a desire or fantasize about having not consented sex with Children that will cause harm, stress, and interpersonal difficulty with the child. The type of child depends on your sexual orientation.
Fetish: Foot fetishism. You enjoy, desire, and fantasize having foot sex play of some kind with a consenting adult. What type of adult that is depends on your sexual orientation.
Paraphilia: Exhibitionism. You have a desire or fantasize about exposing one's genitals to an unsuspecting person. (Can also be the recurrent urge or behavior to perform sexual acts in a public place, or in view of unsuspecting persons.)
Paraphilia: Voyeurism. The recurrent urge or behavior to observe an unsuspecting person who is naked, disrobing or engaging in sexual activities, or may not be sexual in nature at all.
Fetish: Pregnancy fetishism. You enjoy, desire, and fantasize about having sex play of some kind with a consenting pregnant adult.
Bisexual: Like both sexes sexually.

A ton of paraphilia's are illegal cause a shit ton of them involve non-consenting people (pedophilia, exhibitionism, voyeurism, Frotteurism, etc) , the rest because they harm another person (if done non-consensually). There are fetishes that are basically "safe" things of Paraphilia.

An example of that would be BDSM. There is a paraphilia for wanting people to hurt you (Sexual Masochism), and if you engage in this activity with a non-consenting adult, it is a paraphilia and is illegal. However, some people enjoy BDSM with consenting partners and use a secret word, and as such that is a fetish (also called Sexual Masochism) and that is legal because no one is really "getting hurt" since consenting people are doing it.

Sexual orientation and paraphilia's/fetishes are not close to the same at all in regards to what they are about. Yes, they are all related to what sexually excites you, but they are about as similar as a mango and an orange are: they're both fruits.
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Post by: Frankie on August 11, 2008, 08:19:12 pm
SO our discussion right now is like arguing about SHOULD APPLES BE CONSIDERED A VEGETABLE? IE its pointless because the term is not vague in any way and the categories are based on simple boundaries that no amount of opinion or point of view will change?

In this case perhaps the original post was just badly worded, and should have read "Should pedophilia be considered a mental disorder?" rather than "should it be considered a mental disorder OR an orientation?" Because there isn't any discussion to be had with the latter.
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Post by: The Illusionist on August 11, 2008, 08:29:48 pm
Hey Wunderbred, I'm just looking out for the children. Things like personal failures, depression, loneliness, can alter are normal "rational" behaviour. We our human and we are subjected to all the things that can happen to us because we are human. If things like that are in the back of your head then your only more susceptible to doing things of that nature when you're not in your normal mind state.

I don't why people tend to take one thing and compare it to another thing, I guess it's just human nature. I'm not saying that we are not in control of ourselves. What I'm suggesting is that it's best to avoid these type of things, if you can't agree with me on that then I don't know what else to say.
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Post by: Frisky SKeleton on August 11, 2008, 08:49:15 pm
SO our discussion right now is like arguing about SHOULD APPLES BE CONSIDERED A VEGETABLE? IE its pointless because the term is not vague in any way and the categories are based on simple boundaries that no amount of opinion or point of view will change?

bad example, should a potato be considered a fruit? is better

i think we should approach this topic logically, like the greeks. just kidding! dicks are blind, society isn't
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Post by: dada on August 11, 2008, 09:44:01 pm
haha what??? I don't recall ever being GW's resident neurologist or mental disorder specialist! Perhaps you are confusing me with 4DSheep or maybe Lord Kamina (or whatever Chilean it was that has a bio degree).
No, but you're one of the few who's studying biology. You gave me those vodcasts, remember?

What I'd like to repeat here is that any form of condonation of the actions of a pedophile is clearly impossible, but that this is not what's interesting to discuss. At the very least you could discuss how different cultures condemn the practice, but it's pretty unequivocal that they do. Just stating your disdain isn't going to actually, you know, solve problems.

It's kind of funny, by the way. I think we're seeing one of the not-so-subtle differences between the United States and Europe. Let's face it: you guys aren't as civilized as we are.

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Post by: Stadsport on August 12, 2008, 12:35:00 am
I personally view pedophilia closer to a fetish than a sexual orientation. Personally, I don't really care what/who someone is sexually attracted to. I do, however, have a problem with non-consensual sex, and since children don't have the mental capacity or maturity (not to mention physical development) to make such a decision, I can't agree with the act of pedophilia. It's unfortunate for pedophiles, who I presume don't have a conscious decision in the target of their sexual attraction (much like homosexuals), but are forbidden to act upon those desires.
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Post by: Alec on August 12, 2008, 01:59:11 am
dude pedophilia is a mental disorder. plain and simple. Any repetitive thought which acting upon would mean hurting somebody permanently is a mental disorder in my opinion. if you are constantly thinking about killing people you have a mental disorder.

oh, and unguided, just so you know:
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Odaxelagnia: sexual arousal associated with biting or being bitten
this is actually really common. especially in females, and so is scratching and choking (i mean not to the point where you can't breathe just like slight pressure on the throat).
don't call me weird because I like when girls bite me or I want to bite a girl every once in a while.

That's from personal experience because me and a lot of girls I've talked to/liked whatever have been into that stuff.
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Post by: goldenratio on August 12, 2008, 02:19:18 am
fyi the best thing about this topic so far is the "(Jerry Seinfeld voic​" in the title because every time i read it i get to do the jerry seinfeld voice and how can that just not make a man smile.
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Post by: Marcus on August 12, 2008, 02:25:58 am
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Sexual orientation is something that is developed over time.  It's not something that BAM!  you just get it one day when you're four years old and now all of a sudden you're cool to go out and have consensual sex with someone 24 years older than you.

neither is pedophilia

it's interesting to note that "mental disorder" is purely a man made concept and is currently defined as any interruption in the thought process that goes against "normal" development.  as animals, are our base desire is to survive and reproduce.  this would classify pretty much every thing we do as a disorder; compulsive spending, over eating, casual sex (you know, pretty much everything people in developed countries do on a daily basis) can be considered disorders as they do not directly affect our two base desires.  

buuuut, man sets what is considered "normal."  homosexuality was just as abnormal as necrophilia until recently.  both "conditions" exist solely in the mind, they exist at birth but usually don't trigger until a certain age, and they can't be cured.  no tests have proven so, but people who suppress their urges often become mentally damaged (usually through anxiety or some sort of trauma).

it's actually been proven that homosexuals are at a higher risk of mental disorders as a result of society's views on it.  perhaps pedophiles become sexual predators because they understand that their urges are frowned on by society thus causing them to desire the object more.

of course, no scientist would ever touch the subject because of society's negative views.  would you give up your morality in an attempt to study something that could possibly be cured?
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Post by: dada on August 12, 2008, 08:55:45 am
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Post by: dada on August 12, 2008, 08:57:07 am
of course, no scientist would ever touch the subject because of society's negative views.  would you give up your morality in an attempt to study something that could possibly be cured?
This is actually partly what I was talking about before. Although a lot of study is being done, it certainly does matter that nobody wants to touch the subject. That's because every single time the subject is even mentioned, people start talking about how much they'd like to hurt and harass pedophiles. This topic's the same.

I don't blame anyone for wanting to pound pedophiles into the ground, but at the end of the day, that doesn't solve a thing. Whatever is causing pedophilia should be properly researched so that we can understand it better. That's really what matters mostly, because that's how we get closer to knowing how to deal with it.
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Post by: Marcus on August 12, 2008, 01:25:52 pm
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I don't blame anyone for wanting to pound pedophiles into the ground, but at the end of the day, that doesn't solve a thing.

i want to point out the irony that according to that political topic most of the people on this forum are extreme left.  this goes to show you that regardless of how you think there are certain subjects people absolutely refuse to "tolerate" even in the pursuit of knowledge and greater understanding.
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Post by: Bravo on August 12, 2008, 08:35:00 pm
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It's not a sexual orientation.

Sexual orientation is what genders you sexually attracted to. Children are not a gender, they have a gender but there is no gender called Children.
okay so maybe not orientation, my bad, I just thought the quote was pretty good so I felt like using it. I think fetish is the right word for this then.

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Ugh.  Pedophilia is considered wrong because children are A) not physically developed B ) not world wise/intelligent enough/etc to make decisions for themselves in many respects.  They can't give informed consent because most kids just aren't at a place mentally where they could really BE informed.
Sorry not a troll post. And my case is that because its wrong doesn't automatically make it a disorder. It can be illegal, but that doesn't make the pedophiles clinically disturbed people.

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I don't think people being attracted to kids is wrong. I find the idea pretty weird and hard to relate too, but i guess it's just something people have.
However, it's when people act on their feelings for children that things start getting out of hand (for the reasons listed above).
Yeah this. I find it to be basically descrimination when you just immediately call these people insane or evil.

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When someone constantly feels driven to do something awful (IE kill someone or whatever), its still considered a mental disorder isn't it?
yes I suppose it is, but there's a difference between having an attraction and RAPING CHILDREN 24/7!

I am not advocating the ACT, I am defending the ATTRACTION!

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Not true if that is his case, homosexuality has basically always been considered a sexual orientation because...well...it's what a sexual orientation is. It's just been considered a wrong/terrible/sinful orientation because people are stupid. If anyone considered it a paraphilia then they are dumb. The main reason why homosexuality can't be a paraphilia is because homosexuality is not based around a non-consenting person (that is just rape if a guy has sex with a non-consenting guy) and the urges/fantasies/behaviors do not cause distress or interpersonal difficulty with the other person involved (unless if it is rape).
Ah, very good point. I've learned a lil something. So it is different than pedophilia then. Good point, however it was still being discriminated against, which is kind of what the pedophilia situation is now.

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pedos are fucking sick and should be pounded into the ground, not a fake post, hope this helps.
good job fucknut

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Pedophilia should be considered a disorder if you disregard the semantic psychobabble and approach things from a more pragmatic point of view.  I think that the one thing everyone can agree upon is that it is a despicable practice that deserves absolutely no form of encouragement from anyone.  It is something that is not socially acceptable under any circumstances and is punishable by law for very good reason.  Therefore, why not treat it as a disorder? 
Lets say that I look at black people from a pragmatic point of view (yes I'm comparing pedos and blacks now!). I can see that a lot of blacks are responsible for rape and thefts, primarily in the inner cities. Those actions are not socially acceptable and are also punishable by law...and yet it would be completely racist and discriminatory to take all the blacks from the areas in question and confine them to prisons or keep them under guard and on record IN CASE they commit a crime. So the point of this comparison which i'm sure will end up offending people is this: replace black with pedo and that's pretty much how we are treating the pedophiles.

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The one thing that I think is utterly ridiculous about this thread is the idea that pedophilia should be accepted as a sexual orientation.  I don't know what your personal definition of that phrase is and it doesn't really matter in the first place, but society warming up to the idea of child RAPE (i.e. pedophilia) would have lots of negative repercussions that are a bit too depraved to even mention.
Fair enough, and its ture i am wrong on this point. Sexual orientation isn't right, its more like "fetish".

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You'd say, from some point of view, that since homosexuality and pedophilia both deal with sexual preference, they're likely to stem from a similar source, but I don't think that's the case. But it probably will take a while before we figure that out because of how difficult it is to accurately analyze the brain's function.
True. In fact I'm pretty sure that all fetishes and orientations or whathaveyou (in the end I'm talking about what it is you want to fuck) come from the same place in the end. It deals with the same area I'm guessing even though the origins of the fetish/orientation must be different.

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With pedophilia, there is a universally non-subjective agreement that sexually abusing, hurting, or imagining the abuse of  children under the age of consent is disgusting, selfish, and unhealthy.
its kind of subjective...
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but yeah i have no idea how you can call it a universally non-subjective agreement because it really isnt.
yeah this
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Given that children aren't physically or mentally fully developed to any degree and they're not fit to give consent, pedophilia is fucking terrible.

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pedophiles aren't people.
good job having an intelligent discussion guys

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I see that what you mean is, the WRONG part of pedophilia is the RAPE part, not the fetish paraphilia in itself, because while raping someone is a conscious choice from the rapist to do something despicable to an unwilling victim, the URGE to do it brought by the unfortunate fetish paraphilia in itself is not a choice, just like how homosexuality or having any kind of sexual fetish paraphilia or preference or taste are not choices. Where there is no choice, there cannot be "right" or "wrong". I understand that.
yes this is what I'm talking about entirely. you make a good point though about the euphemism part...its still a fetish anyway you look at it, the action is just a crime. my issue is calling it a disorder

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Man, what?  Sexual orientation does not mean the same thing as fetish.  Are you serious?
Yeah so sorry to be confusing. I didn't mean accepting it as an orientation my bad.

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Ah, so pedophilia isn't a fetish either? I just used the wrong term in the post? What would the right term be? I thought fetish just meant, something someone sees as sexual that isnt typically by most people, not something as specific as "OBJECT OR PART OF BODY"
No my argument is that it IS a fetish.

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While I agree that pedophilia is disgusting and wrong and that Bravo you are INSANE . . .

Not all countries have the same age of sexual consent.  I have always wondered if countries like France (I think) are filled with pedophiles?  Cultural differences on sexuality are pretty interesting I think!

But holy shit wanting to have sex with young boys or underdeveloped girls without boobs etc is pretty gross.
Oh yeah thanks bud.

Here's the thing, in YOUR mind, its gross. I'm sure that you'd find the idea of you yourself having sex with full grown dudes (switch if i'm mistaking your gender or orientation) also really gross. The pedophile? Obviously he does not see having sex with children discusting, it is in fact what turns him on.

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Pedophilia in the sense of actually raping kids is not a mental disorder and should not be viewed as such.
wait what?

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A ton of paraphilia's are illegal cause a shit ton of them involve non-consenting people (pedophilia, exhibitionism, voyeurism, Frotteurism, etc) , the rest because they harm another person (if done non-consensually). There are fetishes that are basically "safe" things of Paraphilia.
So difference is paraphilia is illegal while fetish is legal?

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fyi the best thing about this topic so far is the "(Jerry Seinfeld voic​" in the title because every time i read it i get to do the jerry seinfeld voice and how can that just not make a man smile.
Yeah clever right?
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Post by: Bravo on August 12, 2008, 08:46:08 pm
buuuut, man sets what is considered "normal."  homosexuality was just as abnormal as necrophilia until recently.  both "conditions" exist solely in the mind, they exist at birth but usually don't trigger until a certain age, and they can't be cured.  no tests have proven so, but people who suppress their urges often become mentally damaged (usually through anxiety or some sort of trauma).
Yeah this is what's pissing me off basically is that the majority gets to decide what is right. I mean, obviously it is the best way to live, because we can't have 1 man happy while 5.99 billion are miserable, but it annoys me that the minority is discriminated against for having something which makes them different. there's no fixing this really, but the way I view the world has made me hate hypocrites and those who discriminate. and anyone who isn't racist, sexist, or homophobic and still hates pedophiles fits under both. I really won't be comfortable until either I am proven wrong, or pedophilia is no longer considered to be a disorder.

as for all these arguments saying "if you think about killing people to the point where you can't interact with society anymore, is that not a disorder?" well, these are good points. and yes, I suppose it would be a disorder, just as a pedophile looking at a child and everytime thinking, man as soon as I get the chance I want to hit that. well, that person would have to get some sort of help because no way is that healthy thinking. at the end of the day though, I see it as THE SAME as any alcohol anonymous or sex addicts help group. it is the same because you are looking for hel with your urges you can't control...so I guess I'm saying that alcoholism and being over-sexed to the point where you see other people as primarily sexual objects are also disorders to a degree. having a single drink every now and then or having consensual sex with someone a reasonalbe amount is not a disorder, and neither should be non-extreme thoughts of pedophilia (that is, you have the thoughts but you aren't to the point where you want to rape every kid you see).

its a grey area guys, i'm confusing myself too because I don't have the answers
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Post by: Artis Leon Ivey Jr on August 12, 2008, 08:51:24 pm
I like how your replies to oneliners is GOOD JOB GUYS and then most of your own replies are the same thing you said in the OP or a one liner.
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Post by: Bravo on August 12, 2008, 08:53:21 pm
Yeah I noticed that too. But you know what they say, use few words and you save energy. And well, that's what happens when you try to reply to most of the posts in a topic, shouldn't have done that maybe.
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Post by: HL on August 12, 2008, 08:55:46 pm
It isn't a fetish and if you followed the topic I already explained it is considered a Paraphilia and a mental disorder. There is a big difference between Paraphilia and Fetish.

yaaaaay back to page 1.

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So difference is paraphilia is illegal while fetish is legal?

Yes, it is not like I clearly already showed the differences between both of them like 5 times already all on the same page, but sure why not do it again...

Sexual orientation - "the gender of what you are sexually attracted to or not sexually attracted to based on gender."

Fetish - "any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation."

Paraphilia - "a condition in which a human's sexual arousal and gratification depends upon fantasizing about and engaging in sexual behavior that is atypical and extreme, is "distinguished by a preoccupation with the object or behavior to the point of being dependent on that object or behavior for sexual gratification," and dependent upon the individual acting on said urges "with a non-consenting person or the urges, sexual fantasies, or behaviors cause marked distress or interpersonal difficulty”.
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Post by: Bravo on August 12, 2008, 09:01:15 pm
Yeah I read those but unfortunately i don't get this part:
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An example of that would be BDSM. There is a paraphilia for wanting people to hurt you (Sexual Masochism), and if you engage in this activity with a non-consenting adult, it is a paraphilia and is illegal. However, some people enjoy BDSM with consenting partners and use a secret word, and as such that is a fetish (also called Sexual Masochism) and that is legal because no one is really "getting hurt" since consenting people are doing it.
By the definittions given above, it can never be considered a fetish because its not "objects" which turn you on, its basically "fantasizing about and engaging in sexual behavoir that is atypical and extreme". it being legal means that it is called a fetish though? The difference in the end isn't that big if legal/illegal is the issue.
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Post by: HL on August 12, 2008, 09:16:09 pm
no it isn't the LEGAL or illegal, it's that the paraphilia BDSM involves non-consenting people or the person involved NEEDS IT for sexual gratification, whereas the fetish BDSM is with consenting people or the person involved doesn't need it for sexual gratification (but enjoys it). there's multiple parts to it. The consenting part, the NEED for sexual gratification, etc.
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Post by: maladroithim on August 12, 2008, 09:19:33 pm
This thread has actually been very enlightening for me.  I had previously assumed that pedophiles deserved to be pounded but I never really thought about the key distinction between a pedophile and a child rapist.  Even though the OP is maybe not worded exactly the way the author intended it to be, I probably agree with him.

I actually have a lot of pity for the suffering pedophile who does not act out on his (disgusting and horrible) desires.
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Post by: fatty on August 12, 2008, 10:26:27 pm
Pedophilia in the sense of actually raping kids is not a mental disorder and should not be viewed as such. EDIT: It's something much worse. Holy fuck what. I forgot what I was going to say and said something completely different along the way, sorry.

FIXED. Thanks for noticing it for me, Bravo.
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Post by: Bled on August 13, 2008, 01:21:22 am
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Lets say that I look at black people from a pragmatic point of view (yes I'm comparing pedos and blacks now!). I can see that a lot of blacks are responsible for rape and thefts, primarily in the inner cities. Those actions are not socially acceptable and are also punishable by law...and yet it would be completely racist and discriminatory to take all the blacks from the areas in question and confine them to prisons or keep them under guard and on record IN CASE they commit a crime.

Almost a valid point, but being black is not a disorder.  Also, since when is anyone preemptively rounding up suspected pedophiles and throwing them in jail/rehab?  I haven't really heard of this before.

I look at it this way:  any action that is even remotely associated with pedophilia should be punishable to the fullest extent of the law.  I feel absolutely no pity for people who only get caught with child pornography as they are condoning and probably supporting someone else raping a child.  I'm also not sorry that police are essentially utilizing entrapment to catch these wackjobs on the internet who think they can hook up with 12-year-olds on myspace. 

The only place an individual has the right to entertain thoughts about sex with a child is in their own twisted little fantasies, and even then they should probably look for someone to talk to before they find themselves acting upon their depraved urges.  So yes, pedophilia should be considered a disorder.  A violent and threatening disorder at that.   
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Post by: Frankie on August 13, 2008, 02:29:03 am
The BDSM guy was just that one bit luckier than the pedophile, because his own fantasies can be carried out legally, and he can live a pretty normal life. The pedophile simply cant. Isn't it terrifying, the idea that something inside you that you have absolutely no control over could suddenly come out and make you someone regarded as inhuman to the whole world(-Japan heh)? I mean, I imagine coming to terms with your homosexuality can be pretty hard. But it is probably nothing like this.

Imagine that you found out you are a pedophile, like right now. Its not like you could do anything about it, you would probably hate yourself, and start actively avoiding any situation with children or something, just like I imagine teenager homosexuals probably try to avoid any situations with naked males around them, like the gym locker room. Imagine you realize you are a pedophile AND YOU HAVE CHILDREN, holy shit. Could you ever like even look at them again? I am assuming random people don't just turn into pedophiles but its still pretty fucken scary! (well do they? Do we have any idea how many pedophiles there are like out of like X people? I'm guessing its something like 1 out of 1000?)


But honestly? I don't see how this should make it any less of a disorder. Actually, I think it looks more and more like it should definitely be regarded as a disorder, and studied and treated as such, so they are looked more as victims of an unfortunate psychological condition than monsters who will all end up raping children.

This image of pedophiles as monsters probably keeps most of them from seeking psychological help, scared that they'd just be thrown in jail instead or receiving some kind of support. Probably that someone who keeps their sexuality repressed has much more chances of becoming a rapist, while one who is actively seeking help will probably have more control.
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Post by: Warped655 on August 13, 2008, 03:56:44 am
... I just had a bizarre/creepy thought... what would happen if they invented sex robots? Would they, in order to curb child raping, make specialty child sex robots? or would that just make the problem worse... ? I couldn't see anyone going through with producing them... but I also can't see it not making the situation better... or am I forgetting something?
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Post by: cowardknower on August 13, 2008, 04:39:17 am
I dont think that sexual proclivities are genetic that is a pretty ridiculous idea.  What gets you off isn't hardwired into you 100% in every respect.
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Post by: goldenratio on August 13, 2008, 04:45:58 am
"give me all the money in the register or ill inject you with my pedophilia"
"nooo...."