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General Category => General Talk => Topic started by: Kitsune Inferno on November 01, 2008, 12:30:26 am
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THIS IS NOT A JOKE TOPIC!
The prospect of making contact with living, breathing people is a nightmare to me. When I see people I don't know (or in some cases I even DO know), I do everything in my power to avoid contact with them. Sometimes, just going outside to check the mail makes me sick.
I'm really confused as to why. I mean I am self-conscious about my appearance and all, but I just... dread even making eye contact with people.
Do I need a shrink? Am I borderline crazy?
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Post your pic. I'll tell you if you should be self-conscious or not.
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This is true man post a pic. We'll all judge you and youll probably be normal and that'll make you feel better.
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Do I need a shrink?
yes (this is a serious answer you really need to do something about this dude)
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I don't have any pics available on the internet. :\
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how are we suppose to help you? seriously, socializing is easier if you don't look like a complete d-bag.
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I'm afraid of socialists too. It's normal.
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also dude you probably wont like it but the only cure, and im fucking dead serious, is to make friends and hang out. most people go through an awkward phase when they are in highschool or whatever, but most people will make friends and then realize that everyone's just as self conscious and there's really no need to be. just be yourself, hang out with people, and it'll all be good. if people are dicks to you then find new friends who accept you and its really as simple as that! going to a shrink might help but honestly you'd have to do what i said anyway, its what the shrink will tell you.
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Maybe you need to talk to a girl?? (looking at Velfarre)
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also we will need 1 face pic and 1 pic in your favorite outfit. tft's right we need to get a handle on your d-bag factor before we can do anything.
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don't look at me i don't want to talk to him
wait that probably doesn't help him much (unless maybe he becomes afraid to talk to people online and then is no longer afraid to talk to people in person)
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really dude, if you're wearing shorts and a button up flame t-shirt, then yeah it would be really awkward!
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Velfarre, you aren't helping at all! He's probably willing to go down on you and you're like NOPE DONT TALK TO ME
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dbz and looney tunes t-shirts are out
no cargo shorts or birkenstocks
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There is one true way to determine if we can help you.
Post a pic, only then can we be of assistance!
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Well, to be honest, it's more along the lines of I already have friends, but I'm afraid to talk to them anymore. I've been like this ever since graduation, and to be honest, it has more to do with me being ashamed of myself than anything else. I had plans to go to college after graduation, and I still do, but many things have held me back from doing so, and financial reasons is one of them. On top of that, I can't seem to get out of the endless cycle of being broke. I just feel like everything I've worked for over the past four years has completely gone down the drain, and I don't want to show my face to the people I know who had higher hopes for me.
Yes, I know I sound really retarded and douche-like, but I actually am starting to feel a bit better by posting about it online.
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ok so you're not sociophobic you just feel like a failure and cannot face anyone about it.
i think we're getting closer to the real problem here Kitsune Inferno.
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Or instead of a gaming forum, seek professional help!!
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Well, to be honest, it's more along the lines of I already have friends, but I'm afraid to talk to them anymore. I've been like this ever since graduation, and to be honest, it has more to do with me being ashamed of myself than anything else. I had plans to go to college after graduation, and I still do, but many things have held me back from doing so, and financial reasons is one of them. On top of that, I can't seem to get out of the endless cycle of being broke. I just feel like everything I've worked for over the past four years has completely gone down the drain, and I don't want to show my face to the people I know who had higher hopes for me.
Yes, I know I sound really retarded and douche-like, but I actually am starting to feel a bit better by posting about it online.
Maybe post a pic?
Also you are not sociophobic, just ashamed of yourself maybe
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Yeah, but I think that sociophobia is a side-effect of what I am feeling.
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SERIOUS POST NOW, I had a sociophobic girlfriend once and she made me go to this Sociophobes Anonymous or something with her (which is pretty ironic... sociophobes... meeting????) and there were a bunch of people there talking about how hard it was to stand in line at the grocery and fiddling with money to the cashier. And how they couldn't walk out to the car park if anyone else was close and shit. Just this fear of society. It was kind of weird to be around them because they all looked so scared as shit to be there. It was really depressing. The people also looked pretty normal, not ugly or obese or d-bags or whatever, so I don't think appearance plays that big of a factor for people with this (my gf wasn't bad-looking either :fogetnaughty:)
I never really found out what made these people this way, aside from low self esteem, but I don't think you have the sociophobia I am thinking about. You are probably just antisocial or anxious to be around people, not AFRAID of them. You just think you have an embarrassing history/personality or something.
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Well, the problem with getting a job for me is that I need an ID. I had mine, but lost it, and I need money just to get a new one! I can't really ask/expect money from family and whatnot because my family isn't exactly rolling in dough. Therefore I need to somehow come up with cash just to start making some.
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Or perhaps it's a defense mechanism to distance yourself from everyone because you're afraid that if you interact with someone, there's a chance they might socially reject you.
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Basically you just have social anxiety. It doesn't sound like you have it bad enough for it to actually be a disorder, it's just normal anxiety. Anyone that's nervous about something is not going to want to be around the people who make them nervous. It's the same kind of shit as stage fright, you're nervous about reactions so you avoid doing whatever it is will cause it. You just either have to get over it, do something to make yourself feel more WORTHY of people in your mind, and/or go to a dang professional and have them help you. There's nothing we can really do for you here because we're not the people you're nervous to see.
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Perhaps take up an interesting hobby you dig? Buy some new clothes? Get any job? Something to increase your self-esteem and 'societal' rep or something. Yah, this includes talking to people. I had an awkward high school point where I didn't like to make eye contact either. But idk, you just force yourself to until it becomes a habit. There's no harm in doing it. It's not something you can do WRONG either, so it shouldn't be so difficult.
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"if you look good, you'll feel good" ~hot topic
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do you play any instruments?
if you do this can be a great way to meet people (jammin)
if not, I dont have much. Its been a long time since I was successful at learning a new instrument lol
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a doctor isn't going to say a whole lot more than what we are right now. they'll only really care if the problem is severely debilitating. the most a doctor would do right now is a prescription for a mild dosage of antidepressants.
Yes but either he'll listen to us right now and go on with his life (which is what most of us are saying besides POST PICS) or he'll not trust us and go see a doctor. Usually when a doctor tells people things, that's who they believe. Of course, they don't always, but it's either a) he listens to us, b) he'll only listen to a doctor, or c) he doesn't listen to anyone and there's no hope for him. Might as well spread all those options out on the table.
edit: Also guys his problem isn't that he can't make friends. His problem is that he's completely unwilling to even see anyone he knows. He HAS friends, he's just avoiding them because he's embarrassed about not doing shit with his life.
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Haha, thanks, I really do appreciate the help, guys, even though it appears I didn't need it from the start. I was born shy, and my shyness seems to have been blown out of proportion.
And I guess that it could be that I am, in fact, afraid of social rejection. I just especially noticed it shortly before I made this topic, since it's Halloween and there's alot of people visitting my house, so I just retreated to my room.
this right here is exactly what people with your illness do. you try to rationalize your laziness in all sorts of different ways. what is your alternative then? to not ever get a job? i'm sure your parents would be more than willing to offer up some cash if you're telling them you need it to get a job. you could even tell them to think of it as a loan and that you'll pay them back with your first paycheck. an id card can't possibly be that expensive. worst case scenario your could sell some stupid fucking videogames and animes at a pawn shop.
No, no, no. I have begged and pleaded my mom for some cash, and its all been for naught. My mom's in debt as it is as well. I've been incredibly well-prepared to go back to work, just I don't have my ID back yet.
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what the fuck is with these worthless replies, seriously. this is why people hate posting on gw. an otherwise ordinary topic about a common medical issue gets fagged up by a bunch of idiots who desperately need to boost their e-cred with their totally hilarious zingers.
Hey, I happen to like TFT's worthless replies. :gwa:
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get a job. even with a really shitty one you'll still feel a whole lot better about yourself. routine exercise and omega3 pills also work wonders for your brain and your self image.
if none of the above helps then seek professional help and consider taking medication.
sounds like you got.... some experience on the subject
also yeah you guys are idiots if you're serious about TAKE PHOTOS WE'LL PRAISE YOU. that really has nothing to do with this type of thing! most people who had HORRIBLE SOCIAL PHOBIAS were perfectly normal looking!
anyway, i know a thing or two about THE SHAME OF BEING A COMPLETE FAILURE, and konix is basically right. get a job and you will feel better about yourself. it will also force you into social situations and probably make you better at them. i don't really exercise much, but i would also suggest righting your schedule if it is wrong (when i have been the most depressed, i always slept till like 6-7pm and then kind of rolled out of bed and really wanted to go back). it makes you feel so much better about the day and THINGS in general if you are able to wake up early and kind of see a different part of the world than you would at night. what exercise i did get, though, came from biking, and it also helped. you just kind of feel better about things when you get some exercise and tire your body out, and it helps if you enjoy the thign you are doing too. i have no experience with things like omega 3 but who knows maybe they help too!
also maybe try writing about it. not like a LIVEJOURNAL but more like a private one, for yourself. this is great because writing analytically about things gives you more perspective than you have just thinking about them. for a while now whenever things have GONE SOUTH i will maybe sit around and write about them and how i feel about them and invariably by the time i am finished i will have figured something out about the situation or its effect on me that i probably would not have realized had i just thought about it. idk there's just something in the process, for me anyway, that is revealing. give it a try
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Also man, it costs like $5 to have an ID replaced. Why don't you collect cans or loose change or something? If that's REALLY the only thing you have between you and a job, then there's no excuse.
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also yeah stop with the gay replies thanks!!!
by the way, what? i don't think you need cash to get an id, and even if you do, it's not much! first of all, i know what jobs ask for; a legit id (driver's license, state id-- seriously if you don't drive just get a state id, theyre either free or very very cheap), orrrr a copy of your birth certificate/social security card, and some form of photo id. even your high school id would do; just anything at all with a photo and your name on it, plus your birth certificate and ss card. you should definitely have these lying around the house! there's pretty much no excuse for you not to be able to get a job.
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oh sorry, i was just implying if you dress nice, and find your style you'll have a lot more self esteem and you'll be more inclined to go out and socialize. then again i'm not an expert at this sort of thing. but i find that gives the best results to people. sorry!
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In KY it's apparently $12 to have an ID made/renewed. Most of the time they only charge you for the price of printing the ID. In other places it's usually less instead of more. You could sell a single video game or DVD and make that much man.
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i think that might be the case if the problem is related to physical self-image, but this sounds more emotional/intellectual or whatever. like dressing better only helps if youre just feeling bad because you look like shit.
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It's 16 dollars here, plus 7 for the Driver's License. That's a grand total of 23 bucks. Well, I just talked to my mom, she's actually going to loan me the 25 dollars tomorrow! I really have taken all the advice to heart, and I will not deny, I am particularly lazy. And yes, it really has helped me a little bit. Thanks, guys. :)
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i think that might be the case if the problem is related to physical self-image, but this sounds more emotional/intellectual or whatever. like dressing better only helps if youre just feeling bad because you look like shit.
I think this is probably a huge factor right here. I feel like I need some new clothes, however of course, comes the money problem. However, like I said, that'll hopefully be resolved. :)
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I used to have the same problems you did. And the way I cured it was I joined the military. Consider it.
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I used to have the same problems you did. And the way I cured it was I joined the military. Consider it.
yeah uhhh, no don't do this
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I don't know how old you are (i guess you're in highschool) but I know that doing after school stuff completely changed me. I did marching band for 3 years and it had a pretty great effect. But of course.... you might be too cool for band....
Also the job part is true. Maybe get a waitering job.. it sucks but it'll force you into those social situations and plus if you get good the money isn't bad.
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I used to have the same problems you did. And the way I cured it was I joined the military. Consider it.
I don't wanna die. :(
I don't wanna make another thread, but I've got a question: Are there any finiancial consequences for waiting a year before going to college? Like would I be ineligible for Scolarships in general and whatnot?
@Wil: I am out of school, actually, which I think is where my problem draws from. I know what you mean though, I used to play basketball, best time of my life. I want to go back to school (college I mean) so badly, though. :(
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I don't wanna die. :(
*coughpussycough* I've deployed to kuwait, and iraq, didnt die either time bucko :fogetnaughty:
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*coughpussycough* I've deployed to kuwait, and iraq, didnt die either time bucko :fogetnaughty:
I'd be the unlucky one who does. :fogetcry:
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is this topic makin fun of me :(
there were a bunch of people there talking about how hard it was to stand in line at the grocery and fiddling with money to the cashier. And how they couldn't walk out to the car park if anyone else was close and shit. Just this fear of society.
i'm like this imo it really sucks. like if there is someone anywhere i can't move to do anything. if my roommates are like anywhere but STATIONARY AT THEIR DESKS or behind closed doors than i cannot get up to do anything. it's seriously rough :-(
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shut up about joining the army, man. that is the worst advice.
also, i'm not an authority, but none of the scholarships i've seen when i've looked at them have been specific to people just coming out of high school. you might actually be more likely to get them if they find out you've had to WORK FOR A YEAR to get into college.
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Thanks, hp. That was my main fear about calling up the college I;m interested in attending. I was eligible for a scholarship last year that'd cover tuition thanks to my mad ACT scorez, but like I said, many factors prevented me from doing so.
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You can apply for the ones nobody applies for because they don't know that they exist. If you have money to spare get one of those scholarship magazines a next year before you apply for college to see the list of scholarships and degrees available. (They have some pretty unique scholarships here.) I don't recommend the internet though.
Alot of people don't like it when you look them in the eyes so your not the only one, I hope that helps. But I recommend you get a hold of carrying yourself first so that your gaze isn't creepy, unsettling, and scary.
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Well, looking in the eye was only an example of the whole thing. I mean I have to hide behind the door when trick-or-treaters walk up. :(
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I try very hard to look people in the eye but I usually just end up watching their mouths. I don't exactly have a HEARING problem, but for some reason I have like...a listening comprehension problem. Even at a good volume, I sometimes just can't understand what people are saying to me. So, I watch their mouths so I can read their lips and get the words they're forming.
Does anyone else have this? I'm just amazed at the amount of times I don't understand people when they talk to me even though they're not too quiet. Also if someone says something to me when I'm not looking at them at all, I usually have to have them repeat it.
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reading this topic made me feel p. good about myself.
thx bro(s)
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I try very hard to look people in the eye but I usually just end up watching their mouths. I don't exactly have a HEARING problem, but for some reason I have like...a listening comprehension problem. Even at a good volume, I sometimes just can't understand what people are saying to me. So, I watch their mouths so I can read their lips and get the words they're forming.
i do this too but i think it'sa matter of everyone in today's world mumbling. my preferred form of communication is TEXT on computerscreen so when people mumble under their breath is is really hard to understand
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my preferred form of communication is TEXT on computerscreen
lol irl
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I try very hard to look people in the eye but I usually just end up watching their mouths. I don't exactly have a HEARING problem, but for some reason I have like...a listening comprehension problem. Even at a good volume, I sometimes just can't understand what people are saying to me. So, I watch their mouths so I can read their lips and get the words they're forming.
Does anyone else have this? I'm just amazed at the amount of times I don't understand people when they talk to me even though they're not too quiet. Also if someone says something to me when I'm not looking at them at all, I usually have to have them repeat it.
This, i am expecially prone to this for some odd reason.
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I'm going to give you some suggestions and seeing as how you must be over eighteen you should be able to handle it:
get a job. Even if its just at mcdonalds or some bullshit, being around people at work will help you meet and converse with new people and that should help you get over it. You don't have to commit to anything, just try it out for a few weeks and see if it helps out. Having some extra cash too would be cool so you don't have to borrow from your mom.
If you smoke bud or drink I advise trying to hangout with a few people that you think might be into that (either from work or maybe a few friends if you have any) it will really help you relax around other people and loosen up after you get comfortable around a few people maybe try it around others at bigger events? I feel like talking to total strangers when I'm trashed and I'm pretty introverted to people I don't know too. Common sense will tell you not to become depended on those substances to be around other people. But it is a really good ice breaker!
And man don't be worried about what you look like. You really need to get over that.
If someone doesn't like the way you look then they're probably an asshole anyways. I throw on whatever I can find and I got bedhead and no one I hangout with or have met has ever given me shit about it.
I understand if maybe YOU aren't comfortable with what YOU look like and if thats the case then yeah, spruce yourself up if you want. But don't worry about what other people think because it doesn't matter!
Edit: I NEVER look anyone in the eye when I talk to them, I don't know why I guess its a subconscious thing and I really didn't notice at all until some girl told me at work when I was in HS.
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yeah, you know now that i think about it i hardly ever look anyone in the eye either. unless i'm really trying to stress a point.
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getting a job does help. I was pretty much in the same shape as groucho marxist. i have problems with social anxiety still, but it's just something I'll always have to deal with. I usually try to find ways to deal with it and do my best. Don't be afraid of meeting new people, because for every 100 shitty ones you meet there is one really cool person that you'd regret not meeting later. seriously. go out and live life. even if you are fucking terrified. just. get. over. it.
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Eye contact is a form of respect....at least where I come from. I actually wasn't too good at it myself until I got a job where I had to do it.
But yeah, get a job man. Make sure it's a job that you can interact with different people. Get in contact with your old friends even if it's just a phone call. When you don't do anything for an extended period, things like this can happen. Your parents are willing to help you out too, so there is no excuse for this.
Definitely get a job...it is most important...
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well as ya'll can probably remember, I used to have this shit (and having a job didn't help, I wouldn't speak to anyone there, and did my best to avoid being seen). I've always been a shy person and still am very shy, but it's something I just had to dealt with and deal with and I don't have too much problem anymore, just listening to groovy music helped me out.
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I do think you should volunteer for community theatre (one thing I used to do when I was younger, and it helped me a LOT). You may be scared at first but once you get a rythym going you can use that fear as adrenaline rather than panic. There is no better therapy for your type of situation. You can come into practice viewing this as a job (whether there is payment or not). And when you stand up on stage usually if its even a half decent play you are going to get a lot of laughs and cheers. This sort of thing really helps boost your confidence.
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If you have a local shopping mall or something, you could head down there more often? It may not seem like much, but I can easily imagine it slowly making you more comfortable with people being around you... Just a suggestion. It isn't quite as big of a jump as some of these other posts, so it could either be easier for you or useless for you.
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There is a cure.... but you're not gonna like it...
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the problem here is you are a loser
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reading this topic made me feel p. good about myself.
thx bro(s)
you are slowly but surely going from the best new member ever to a bad one STOP SLIPPING
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holy shit you guys are incredibly unfunny. quit making incredibly lame/unhelpful posts!
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stop spending yoru life on gw
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Ryan "Cant We All Be Friends" Reizhan
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Well, I'm actually feeling a lot better today. I actuallywent to the store and talked to people. :fogetgasp:
Also, I just got a job at my local K-Mart. 5% discount on everything :fogetnaughty:
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If your ever worried about screwing up do it with people you'll know you'll never meet again. Cause if you do, you won't see them again so it's all good.
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Depending on where you live (this applies to a lot of places though), most people don't go to K-Mart (too busy going to a certain....other mart...) so that means being able to have the chance to work and learn to deal with people without being OVERWHELMED by people.
Unless you have some sort of WILD AND HAPPENIN' K-Mart. Either way, way to go on getting a job dude. It'll do you a lot of good.
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you are slowly but surely going from the best new member ever to a bad one STOP SLIPPING
forums user "Beasley" weighs in on my posts
:D :D :D WHO CARES!?!?!?!! :D :D :D
NOT ME, FAGGGGGGGG!!!!!!
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keep it real homes
btw
a good social activity that will help you network with people and actually meet some pretty geniune people along the way (though you will run into sapsuckers):
:ganja: :ganja: :ganja: :ganja: :ganja: :ganja: :ganja: smoking the ganjaweed 420 forever :ganja: :ganja: :ganja: :ganja: :ganja: :ganja: :ganja:
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this doesn't apply to you since your family is poor, but to anyone reading this who has wealthy parents and no friends: buy weed and smoke everyone out. buy lots of chronic and some nice bongs and hookas. you will make more friends than you know what to do with.
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this doesn't apply to you since your family is poor, but to anyone reading this who has wealthy parents and no friends: buy weed and smoke everyone out. buy lots of chronic and some nice bongs and hookas. you will make more friends than you know what to do with.
yeah but you'll get really tired of people mooching on your good weed.
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but by that time you'll have made a couple of really good friends and then you guys can be really exclusive and picky.
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yeah everybody likes the guy with the free weed
and in return a lot of people that are actually cool will usually remember that you hooked them up when they were in a tight spot and will do the same for you if they can. This is a good way to fathom people's integrity of character actually haha. If they are just selfish pieces of shit you will be able to figure this out quickly when weed is involved.
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yeah that's what sucks when it's someone you've been friends with for a while won't stop mooching your shit. one of my friends is thinking about telling another friend he quit and switching dealers so he'll stop mooching free weed but still like pretty cool guy if a freeloader.
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well thats when you put your foot down. I dont put up with that shit.
I mean.. at least match me every once in a while christ
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none of my friends smoke weed but y cuz sells it and hooks me up when I actually smoke, so I always give him and my uncle free weed.
even though my uncle is a fucking freeloader I still let him smoke becuase I don't need that much toget high. thats what sucks becuase I could hook ALOT of pepple up when I get ganja but I don't know anyone that smokes :(
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This might sound like the stupidest suggestion, but are you eating well? I was suprised at how much I felt better after eating a proper breakfast and lunch. And cutting out fucking mcdonalds.
Seriously, a big breakfast and waking up at the same time everyday can work miracles.
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yo not to back up dom et al but more to reiterate what others are saying, you don't seem shy so much as having a legit condition. like if we did some boy meets world shit and chef and I knocked on your door and were all SURPRISE you'd probably throw up and lock the door!
getr some help...
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yo not to back up dom et al but more to reiterate what others are saying, you don't seem shy so much as having a legit condition.
Yeah, it really is a case of 'Just get out there'. Now that I think about it, as vague as that is, it probably is the best advice anyone can give you.
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what? no dude from his first post he can't make it to the mailbox without stressing.
that's probably a situtation for a therapist!
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what? no dude from his first post he can't make it to the mailbox without stressing.
that's probably a situtation for a therapist!
Hmmmm... Touché. I forgot he was that bad...
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you sound like a hikikkomori.
read "Welcome to the NHK".
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in Norway we have a saying:
"Kjærleiken kommer med sengevarmen."
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my friend is afraid to buy stufff. he gives me money and then i buy it. I bought his psp this way.
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you sound like a self insert character
read "generic manga".
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I used to be sociophobic. Now I have more friends than pubic hairs: both online and offline.
Before you start trying to make friends and be social, find something you like about yourself and learn to be comfortable as yourself around others, despite not having a job or money. When people see you are in tune with yourself, they will feel comfortable around you and you'll have no problems making and keeping friends. You also can't be afraid to put yourself out there. Say "Hey this is me. Whether you like it or not."
I guarantee you won't be rejected by EVERYONE, and if some people do reject you, then they aren't needed in the first place.
What you look like also doesn't matter. Looks and genetics and even wealth do no determine a person. Personality, goals, views, lifelong dreams, and other internal workings are what makes someone stand out and easy to befriend. There are plenty of people online that I cosider best friends whom I have known for over 6 years and never seen their faces. It simply does not matter on the level of friendship or being able to make and keep trusted friends.
Believe me. There is something likable about every human, no matter how vile they seem to some. What you see is a clash of prsonal views and opinions or a bad case of less-than-moral upbringing (especially when opinions of others are based on skin colour).
So my advice is to find something about yourself that makes you unique that you can truely say 'This is me.' Then find others who appreciate people for their value in friendship and loyalty, not in appearances, wealth, or social status. Butin order for others to love you, you must love yourself first.
That's about all I have to say!
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Yeah but Steel it sounded like his problem is mostly about being afraid of seeing someone he knows. It'd be hard to go get your mail because you'd be out where it's possible people who know you will see you (i.e. your neighbors).
So on that note, can you explain what your exact situation is? Is it JUST being afraid of seeing people you know, or is it just a general fear. Because man it sounded like you were just afraid of disappointing people that know you.
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Yeah but Steel it sounded like his problem is mostly about being afraid of seeing someone he knows. It'd be hard to go get your mail because you'd be out where it's possible people who know you will see you (i.e. your neighbors).
So on that note, can you explain what your exact situation is? Is it JUST being afraid of seeing people you know, or is it just a general fear. Because man it sounded like you were just afraid of disappointing people that know you.
If that's the problem, it still stands that it shouldn't be a concern: If you can't be yourself an present who you are, even in disappointments, to those you consider friends without being concerned they will judge you, then you need to evaluate if they are true friends or not. True friends will accept you regaurdless of mistakes or flaws, and most likely will aid you in getting back on your feet and finding yourself again to where you are comfortable. Heck, I know that if one of my friends were poor I'd be giving them the shirt off of my back and striving to find them a job. Sometimes we just can't do it on our own, and that is what friends are for: to lift each other up in weak times of doubt and depression. You have to learn who your real friends are and learn that your supporting them will be equally returned have you ever a need for their strength in your error.
If you don't have this kind of friends, you need to explain how you feel to the ones you believe that may or my not have that level of friendship with you. Explain to them how you feel and be very open. True friends may already notice that you are uncofortable and ask you point blank. If they do not get the clue, you have to come out with it yourself and not be afraid. They are your FRIENDS. I'mnot saying USE them, but acknowlege them for what they are and act that way towards them. Friends will be concerned. Friends will want to help.
Sometimes you just have to take that initiative nd lay it all on the table.
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also more interesting imho: do you dudes really dish out free weed to make friends?
this is like the exact opposite of those campus crusade people doing magic shows on the brickyard and saying COME..SEE REAL MAGIC but not in the meaningful way...
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ive known a couple of rich kids like that (i never had money for weed)
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also more interesting imho: do you dudes really dish out free weed to make friends?
this is like the exact opposite of those campus crusade people doing magic shows on the brickyard and saying COME..SEE REAL MAGIC but not in the meaningful way...
lol for real, I usually made an effort to keep new people OUT of the smoking group because I didn't want to be the guy smoking everyone out all the time. Smoking with complete sociophobes is pretty lame, too: This one guy kept tagging along with my buddies and showing up at my place to smoke after work for a few weeks and all he'd do was bitch about not having a girlfriend, talk about how much of a loser he was and how bad his problems are. We'd also have to treat him "special" too because my doggs and I like to say the most degrading shit about each other in the most casual way because it's funny and we let our guards down, but this guy would almost be in tears and start complaining about his 'condition' if we called him something like "grumpo".
when he wasn't high he was just like a lot of the stories here, he'd have someone buy cigarettes for him because he didn't know how to handle being carded
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No, but I'm not above sharing if I got some. As long as the people I'm sharing with do so later on.
ITS CLALLED THE WEED POOL
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haha no I dont dish out free shit just to make friends
but I am saying its a good way to meet cool people
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Did any of your parents have an alcohol problem? I'm sorry if that seems irrelevent, but I'm curious now.
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also more interesting imho: do you dudes really dish out free weed to make friends?
i don't smoke with strangers so no
EDIT: sounds weirdthat way. i think it's better to know what someone's like straight before you try to take them on high.
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I get what you mean because me and my friends were at one of their girlfriend's houses and I met up with some guy I had vaguely remembered from highschool.
the gf's sister (who was pretty obese and I actually thought she was in her mid 20s but it turned out she was like 17) was smoking at the side of the house with the gf and her friend. when she came inside and started FREAKING the fuck out!
She started crying and tried to wake her mom up because she was immature as fuck and couldn't handle it. It was kind of funny though because her 22 year old boyfriend (the dude I vaguely knew from highschool) started freaking out and ran out the house.
It was terrible but looking back on it it was also hilarious to watch two people that should be mature enough to handle ABLUNT, act like a bunch of children.
turns out the guy hates marijuana for some reason (I was drinking a beer and talking to him; the whole time he was like WEED.................IT CHANEGS PPL. While his GF was in the back token up), is incredibly dumb, and is a compulsive liar.
now we avoid both of them like the plague...
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I don't wanna make another thread, but I've got a question: Are there any finiancial consequences for waiting a year before going to college? Like would I be ineligible for Scolarships in general and whatnot?
Actually, if you don't mind waiting, starting college in your mid-20s is financially the best idea. Because few people go to college if they haven't already by their mid-20s, the Fed gives huge grants to nearly anyone 24 or over who attends school full-time and applies for Financial aid.
Also I have never heard of scholarships excluding people for being older. I have however heard of scholarships excluding people for being young (specific lifetime education, middle-aged education etc scholarships)!