Personal I think getting tattoos of pop culture items is a little tacky to me, because it dates you as a person, and I feel like if you define yourself through something that is pop culture or entertainment related, then you aren't really well defined as a person.   Feel free to disagree or argue against this point.

Quote from: Afura on January 24, 2013, 09:18:22 pm

Think everyone else pretty much covered what I had to say (Esiann etc). But I do find being called or hinted at as a homophobe extremely offensive. I know Dada said he doesn't actually believe I am one, but still thought I would say that because I've been called one in another similar conversation too. Not a lot on the internet offends me! But for some reason that does. Same with if someone called me a racist because both are blatantly incorrect . 

No, I don't think you are. That bit about "maybe you think the gays are getting too uppity" was mostly just meant to be a joke. I do think it was insensitive of you to say what you did, though. The reason why I got mad is because I think in these situations the best thing to do is just accept whatever the wronged party said and not complain too much about it. This is just how people, like in this case Geodude, can react when they see these deeply insulting things. But I'm sorry, I shouldn't have reacted the way I did. You're right.

I just really wish that when things like this happen, people don't first look at the victim's reaction, but at the perpetrator's act. That should always come first. And it's not right to call people overly sensitive either. That's just not helpful. Of course people are sensitive to things that are as personal and offensive as this. And everybody's different, not everyone's able to cope with it as well as others.

Maybe we should actually use the warning system for this, three strikes you're out. Not really being facetious here. It's not terribly fun seeing the snide bandwagon roll in whenever somebody steps out of line. It's probably better for the atmosphere of this place if we just handle that administratively than keep going down this road, since it IS more or less a rule of the forum now that people are actually getting banned over. I don't think it's going to create the most agreeable environment long term having unwritten rules that can get you thrown out of the community.

I mean, there is some goofy juvenile shame of having a WARNING SYSTEM, but I think people probably want to get along with everybody else, and it would be a way to make those rules clear without necessitating a fight over it, which has begun happening with some frequency. A warning would probably be enough to make people aware of how their behavior is viewed, make necessary corrections so as not to offend others.

how about we actually call people out when they need to be called out, and stop making up dumb excuses to justify their behavior?

I really don't care too much.

Maybe the "salt world q&a" topic is so important to you that it can't possibly be polluted by one or two posts to make someone aware of the fact we've outgrown the use of slurs—any use—and that there's no exceptions or excuses. But let me be absolutely 100% clear to you right now: when someone uses slurs or any other totally unacceptable language, it's no problem to temporarily interrupt a topic to set that straight. If you don't like that, goodbye. And if you think that someone's complaint isn't helpful, just say that, but don't complain that someone's "derailing a topic" by talking about something else when you're doing exactly the same thing.

We now return to your regularly scheduled dumb Salt World forum topic.

Quote from: Afura on January 16, 2013, 09:07:52 pm

feature request: a mainsite and a well designed banner for sw 

those are already on the list you doofus