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Terrorantula

#1 June 03, 2011, 05:37:58 pm

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OK guys I need some help here. An old acquaintance has invited me to a party to see some people I used to know. However, I really have no interest in either going to the party or reconnecting with these people and I'd like to make it clear without hurting their feelings. How do I tell them they're ancient history without offending them or the host? Do you think I'm making a mistake by cutting the ties?

Does "Thank you but I'm not interested.
I wish the best for all of you.
Goodbye and good luck" work?

Everyone has the right to be himself; wise men know how to,when, and whether to navigate the boundary between their rights and those of others when they collide.

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#2 June 03, 2011, 05:41:48 pm

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You don't have to tell them you don't want to see them, just make an excuse for this time and maybe next time and they'll stop trying.

Source: alienated a lot of friends

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hero_bash

#3 June 03, 2011, 05:52:13 pm

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you should go..one day in your deathbed you'll remember one of these moments when you wish you could've done those 'new' things to experience a different environment or something shitfuck.

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jamie

#4 June 03, 2011, 05:58:06 pm

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say sure i'll see you there and then just don't go and avoid going online or checking your e-mail for a few days until you feel like you can swallow the guilt. come up with an elaborate excuse which doesn't even really make sense that will put you both in an awkward position and prolong the conversation so you both end up feeling like weaker people who aren't really sure why they're in this position all of a sudden. there are all sorts of things you shouldn't do.

why are you so disinterested in seeing them again? are they a bunch of Dopers?

i'd just say i had other plans and maybe some other time if i didn't want to.

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#5 June 03, 2011, 06:38:40 pm

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Just do what I do in those situations and just do it anyway. Usually if you are genuinely not interested in those people, you'll only have to talk to them for a little while early on before they just get distracted talking to each other and forget you are even there.

At that point I usually find a nice corner and pull out my favorite handheld console and shut everything else out while sitting idle as if I still enjoy being there.

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Terrorantula

#6 June 03, 2011, 07:24:16 pm

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I think I'll probably do what Jamie suggested.MAybe I won't cut ties but I don't feel like going.

Everyone has the right to be himself; wise men know how to,when, and whether to navigate the boundary between their rights and those of others when they collide.

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crone_lover720

#7 June 03, 2011, 07:33:48 pm

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"nah, no thanks. thanks for offering tho"

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#8 June 03, 2011, 07:34:17 pm

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don't respond

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Terrorantula

#9 June 03, 2011, 07:37:46 pm

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I politely declined the invitation and left it at that.

Everyone has the right to be himself; wise men know how to,when, and whether to navigate the boundary between their rights and those of others when they collide.

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Faust

#10 June 03, 2011, 08:51:33 pm

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I love that your first thought was "SORRY BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED!"

Hehe, I would be so offended, but I guess bluntness can be a secret weapon sometimes in getting you out of socialisation!

Hey hey hey

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Terrorantula

#11 June 03, 2011, 10:07:57 pm

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IDOlike to socialize. I just wasn't interested about this instance. moment. so ended up saying thanks, but not interasted right now, maybe another time."

Everyone has the right to be himself; wise men know how to,when, and whether to navigate the boundary between their rights and those of others when they collide.

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crone_lover720

#12 June 03, 2011, 10:54:49 pm

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so you offended AND confused them

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Farren

#13 June 04, 2011, 07:47:41 am

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tell them you don't have any time for their bullshit and when they say what bullshit say all of it and storm off

DEUCE: MEETING THE URINE UP CLOSE AND PERSONAL AND REALIZING IT'S JUST LIKE ME AND MY PREJUDICES THIS WHOLE TIME WERE COMPLETELY FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF PTTTTHTHTHH GOD IT'S EVERYWHERE DEUCE: FUCK THIS TASTES LIKE PISS PANTS: WHERE IT SHOULD TASTE LIKE COTTON CANDY OR PICKLES DEUCE: OR AT LEAST LIKE URINE NOT PISS

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hero_bash

#14 June 04, 2011, 08:14:59 am

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you'll die alone

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#15 June 04, 2011, 11:24:21 am

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"i have work."

it's the perfect excuse for situations like this. you can get off without having to hint at not wanting to go.

saying something like "I wish the best for all of you. Goodbye and good luck" would probably give the impression of "heh im better than you fuckerz" and while that's likely TRUE it's not something you'd want to say.

and hell, if it's something that they're putting together over like facebook or w/e then you can probably just be like "sorry dude cant make it" and they wont really PRESS YOU FOR THE DEETS. they probably just picked your name from a dropdown list along with everyone else.

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Farren

#16 June 04, 2011, 12:25:35 pm

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Quote from: Hero Bash on June 04, 2011, 08:14:59 am

you'll die alone

not the who or where but the how. Thats the only question I got. preferably not by fire or some terminal degredating illness (cancer).

DEUCE: MEETING THE URINE UP CLOSE AND PERSONAL AND REALIZING IT'S JUST LIKE ME AND MY PREJUDICES THIS WHOLE TIME WERE COMPLETELY FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF PTTTTHTHTHH GOD IT'S EVERYWHERE DEUCE: FUCK THIS TASTES LIKE PISS PANTS: WHERE IT SHOULD TASTE LIKE COTTON CANDY OR PICKLES DEUCE: OR AT LEAST LIKE URINE NOT PISS

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hero_bash

#17 June 04, 2011, 03:53:57 pm

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the best way is to die in a blaze of glory.

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Faust

#18 June 04, 2011, 09:21:02 pm

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you'll die alone

Elderly people seem to now anyway. Like you aren't allowed in while your relative is DYING, only while they're stable and shit. As a rule you wait in another room.

This is why I plan to die in a fistfight in public or something, so that when I die there'll be lots of people around.

Hey hey hey

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Malad

#19 June 04, 2011, 11:48:06 pm

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Quote from: Faust on June 04, 2011, 09:21:02 pm

Elderly people seem to now anyway. Like you aren't allowed in while your relative is DYING, only while they're stable and shit. As a rule you wait in another room.

This is why I plan to die in a fistfight in public or something, so that when I die there'll be lots of people around.

Damn this thread took a (seemingly) really morbid and serious turn.

what's updog?

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Faust

#20 June 04, 2011, 11:58:03 pm

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Yeah, I have no idea why I posted that really.

OH NO MY SECRET FEARS

Hey hey hey

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