idk maybe a lot of that stuff was a lie, but the dude did come back after being away for like a year and sent me a kind of lengthy apology for being such a dick, even tho I was probably as guilty of that as he was, and then disappeared
edit: here's the second part of his PM
I was a really big jerk for a long time with no real justification besides that people liked me so I thought it was okay. I sincerely thank you for responding and accepting my apology.
and that was it, gone!!