Q May I have special forums title please :>

You can set your member title in your profile???? Or do you mean something else?

I'm still wondering when "fafg" became an actual slur word... if even a real word at all. Back in the day, it used to be a universally accepted inside joke via the GW community.

Yes, it was a universally accepted joke based on the word "fag". It was a misspelling of the word "fag" and it caught on. It's OK if you didn't realize that at first, but just take my word for it, we don't particularly like hearing it. There was a time, years ago, when Raz actually made an emotive appeal to get people to stop saying fag and he was pretty much laughed right out of the room. That's just not how we are anymore. We've grown up.

A: I meant the thingy that is on top, thingy that says I am a member  as opposed to "advanced member" or "sluggies" or "VILLAIN", maybe I am big dumb galoot who is bad at forums, but if I can change that on my own, I don't know how :<

if you go to http://saltworld.net/forums/index.php?app=core&module=usercp&tab=core you should see a line "Member Title", you can change that to whatever you like. The one underneath your avatar is static, but I think I'll remove it in the layout overhaul until it becomes needed.

Q: What's best in life

A: Life is a reward in and of itself.

haha. just kidding. it's morphine.

 
seriously dude, you could just be a little fucking nicer.

Sure, maybe I could! I'm not nice to people who get mad over people being offended by slurs that target them. Maybe that's wrong. I'm not saying this to be facetious either, maybe it really is wrong. But that's my view: to say that someone's base reaction to being offended should have a little more decorum seems very wrong to me. Some people don't have that capacity, and I'm not going to be the one to criticize them for it.

But honestly, there was literally just one post that you could consider unhelpful, Geodude's initial reaction. That's just a reaction. There was no "snide bandwagon", nothing like it. You could say I was being snide, which was in response to Warped and Afura, not to what IceSage said. But it's a massive exaggeration to say this is some kind of systemic problem on this forum. All the other posts were pretty to-the-point, I think. Some people asked him not to say fafg anymore and he asked some questions but then complied. I think it wasn't particularly bad minus the sudden escalation about tone (that didn't seem warranted at all to me).

 
i don't know how the fuck my suggesting policy for a repeated event makes me a target for criticism. i guess i need to GET IN TOUCH WITH REALITY.

What you're suggesting is that I somehow disallow people's base reactions to being targeted by a type of bigoted speech they don't like. I can't do that. What I meant by what I said is that it's just not reasonable to expect there to not be some kind of backlash whenever this happens. The internet just isn't a place full of people who 'get' these things. So people are gonna make mistakes, and when they happen they're gonna get called out. I can't instantly ban people when this happens, and I'd feel wrong about making some kind of policy saying "don't respond until a mod arrives to defuse the situation". If you're suggesting something else, I'd like to hear it [in ][/in].

I just don't have much patience for this "you should not be angry when people say stuff that offends you" thing. You might not mean to say that, but that's what it comes down to.

Yes, what IceSage said was relatively innocent—he said it because it's an old GW thing, and he apologized for it—but I'm not going to fault anyone for responding negatively to it. But there was literally only one such post. I've read the posts that were made in response, and I honestly don't think that there's anything going on aside from the first post which, again, I think is understandable.

What happened then, completely aside from all of what preceded, was a complaint about tone. I don't take very well to those things, I honestly admit it. On that one, I'm guilty as charged. I don't like it when the response to what you can see at the beginning on page 3 is "if you're going to be offended by a slur, at least be nice about it", and I don't like it when people who call out that sort of behavior are referred to as a 'snide bandwagon' without any basis whatsoever. You can't honestly expect me to find that a very decent or helpful thing to say.

I don't think you're a homophobe. I just don't like it when you tell someone like Geodude to be nicer to the person who said something that offended him.

OK I'll be nicer from now on to people who say things that dehumanize me.