tbh i dont really mind having sex/making out with someone engaged if i dont know the dude.

yeah see i think you're putting your ideas of WHAT WARRANTS A LACK OF RESPECT into a situation where it is not actually the case.  like confusion//conflicted feelings/general unsureness of what the fuck she should or wants to do somehow equals THIS BICH DONT RESPECT ME i guess?

tbh i dont really mind having sex/making out with someone engaged if i dont know the dude.

yeah see i think you're putting your ideas of WHAT WARRANTS A LACK OF RESPECT into a situation where it is not actually the case.  like confusion//conflicted feelings/general unsureness of what the fuck she should or wants to do somehow equals THIS BICH DONT RESPECT ME i guess?

well then we have some pretty big differences in how we behave and respect others.

of course. i wouldnt pistolwhip a guy if he inserted his dick in my gf. i would just get really mad about it and stop talking to her

man they are called communication problems and no i do not think it means the RELATIONSHIP IS DEAD.  people are unwilling to talk about that kind of stuff for a lot of reasons!  maybe they are dumb or maybe they are uncomfortable or maybe they know on some level that there are problems but think that by refusing to acknowledge them they are not real.  none of these things necessarily mean that the relationship is "pretty much over" dude but they are all very frequently reasons why people do not just sit down and talk shit out.
what???  yes there is what are you even talking about man.  serious relationships, especially ones where people live together, are kind of a pain in the ass to break up!  i don't mean messy like OH GOD WHYYY although i think that's a part of it, too; i mean that really it's kind of a lot of trouble to deal with putting a complete end to a long-standing, serious relationship, especially a marriage (and especially one with kids) and a lot of people do not do it based on that.  i have known people PERSONALLY who have said they would have gotten divorced (or gotten divorced sooner, usually) if it wasn't so goddamn stressful and ugly to end things.  it's a real deterrent!  you just kind of let it continue because yeah, it seems harder to stop it

man they are called communication problems and no i do not think it means the RELATIONSHIP IS DEAD.  people are unwilling to talk about that kind of stuff for a lot of reasons!  maybe they are dumb or maybe they are uncomfortable or maybe they know on some level that there are problems but think that by refusing to acknowledge them they are not real.  none of these things necessarily mean that the relationship is "pretty much over" dude but they are all very frequently reasons why people do not just sit down and talk shit out.

what???  yes there is what are you even talking about man.  serious relationships, especially ones where people live together, are kind of a pain in the ass to break up!  i don't mean messy like OH GOD WHYYY although i think that's a part of it, too; i mean that really it's kind of a lot of trouble to deal with putting a complete end to a long-standing, serious relationship, especially a marriage (and especially one with kids) and a lot of people do not do it based on that.  i have known people PERSONALLY who have said they would have gotten divorced (or gotten divorced sooner, usually) if it wasn't so goddamn stressful and ugly to end things.  it's a real deterrent!  you just kind of let it continue because yeah, it seems harder to stop it

you're kind of making excuses for people who aren't mature enough to end a relationship when they should

this comes back to a lack of respect

oh did you?  sorry if i missed it but yeah i dunno we're talking about serious relationships here which generally imply cohabitation (at least here they do) so i agree with you for the most part in ones not serious enough for them to not even have moved in together but then those aren't the type i'm really talking about