Fruity Ask a Transperson (Read 3956 times)

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Do people know you're trans?  How do they react when they find out?  Is it a problem or are people generally alright with it?  Hope this question isn't offensive.
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Becuase i can and i like it, no real reason, not everything has to have a reason.
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I have another question for you, do you always dress in girls clothes or only bother with it for special occasions like nights out ect.
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Would you consider an operation?

I'm going to be completely honest, and I'm sure I'll get my head bitten off by SW for being anti-pc or whatever, but I find the idea of having an operation to change your gender pretty strange. I think if you need to alter your body through science because mentally you find men attractive and find feminine clothing appealing, then something is I don't know.... wrong? That's not to say I hate transgenders or any of that ridiculousness, I just don't think an operation is necessary.
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Also how did your parents react? Grandparents?

Was school life difficult?
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. I think if you need to alter your body through science because mentally you find men attractive and find feminine clothing appealing, then something is I don't know.... wrong? That's not to say I hate transgenders or any of that ridiculousness, I just don't think an operation is necessary.

I find this interesting more than "anti-pc." I find the concept of an operation to change gender really, really strange. Almost like humanity on a scientific and technological level is starting to get to the point of "playing god."

And as Afura said, I don't have any problem with transgender people and I don't have a problem with them having the operation, I just find the idea of it strange.
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I was talking about this recently and, yes, it's hard not to find it strange. But wouldn't you also agree that circumcision is strange if it's for non-medical reasons? I'm aware that it's common practice in the US, but in Europe it's really not - an article I read recently stated that one of the reasons Jewish people have been considered "effeminate" in history is due to the perception that we have "mutilated" genitalia. And that's not because we feel trapped in the wrong body or anything, but because of some deal with G-d! Which is more strange from that angle?

It's hard to see from another person's mindset if you're totally comfortable with your own genitalia. It's good that most people don't have a PROBLEM with people having the operation, especially as in the EU it's fully legal for trans people to change their gender in the law. Well, in the UK we had to be forced by the Court of Human Rights to accept the ruling (and we only have done since 2005), but it's the way things are now.

Oh yeah, according to UK law now anyway, you don't actually have to have the full operation to have an official gender change. Gender change legally occurs after a year of living as the preferred gender and with hormone therapy.

How far would people agree that the discomfort associated with trans-people is the thought of losing or something happening to their own genitalia?


BTW: Swordfish, you're really cute, for a chick anyway. Well done for attempting to educate people :D​!
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@ DietCoke: honestly? becuase as far as i'm concerined, my body is disgusting becuase i can't stand it's masculine features.

@ Farren: first of all, gender identity is a seprate thing from whom your atracted to, that said i'm bi, why not? more fun, ok that's not entirly true, tbh i'm still not sure who i'm atracted to but so far i seem to swing both ways. I don't strictly wear womens clothing, that said i can't wear mens clothing (well the trousers at least) becuase despite my masculine features i'm rather a feminine physicaly, i can go into that in a moment, but put simply men's trousers tends to just fall off; for the record i don't wear women's clothing to make me feel more fem, i wear them becuase i like them the fact there ladies clothing is an afterthought and yes i think of myself as a women, i just have a birthdefect, having a dick.

@Doktormartini: becuase i tend to present androgynos most of the time most people catch that i'm male, i only tell people i know i can trust i'm trans so i've had no problems so far, but that's also why i haven't told my only remaning parent, i can't tell how'd he react, he thinks trans is a stupid thing but at the same time, i know my dad loves me, we've always had a strong bond.

@Massy2k6: atm i only present fully female on special ocasions, that and when i have the courage to do it, that said i'm always wearing ladies jeans/gothy trousers but i've already mentiond why, i'll speak on that later as already said.

@Afura: that is a very honest question and i don't take offense at all. Yes i do but the reason i need this has nothing to do with whom i find atractive or clothing, i'ts my physical self i can't stand, i need to do this to feel good withmyself, so i can feel normal instead of this horrible presure to conform to somthing that isn't really me. Whilst most people feel bad becuase the think there ugly or becuase of this that and the other they are at least comfortable with there physical selves and the roll they have in society and what's expected of them; for me and people like me, we have the same issues but on top of that we arn't comfortable in our bodies or the roll in society or what's expected of  them.

@ Faust: Thanks, your making me blush. Also you say loose somthing and your right, but, for me it's loosing the last evidence that i was a man and instead gain somthing that will make me feel closer to what i should have always been.

Now, before i leave to go and get lunch (mmm salmon en crute) i said i would talk about my physical self. Whilst i am (at least acourding to the doctors) fully male i do have some rather circumspect atributes which i'm rather glad of since it makes it easier to pass. I don't have wide shoulders (ther in line with my hips) and a waist that goes inwards, i don't have a petruding adams apple, my arms go out at a 45 degree angle instead of straight, my arms are rather slender, and my face is really effeminately featured so in that reguard i'm quite lucky. It doesn't take much at all to pass for female, despite that though it's still not easy to work up the courage to dress up and present as female and still can't stand the masculinty i see on myself.

EDIT: i'm also pretty short, i'm only 5'6, well short for a man, also i have really small hands, most women tend to have bigger hands then i do.
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Hey screw you, I'm 5'6!!!!

It is a MIGHTY HEIGHT! If we were around a thousand years ago we'd be decently sized people. Another thousand years and we'd have been reasonably tall!
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ha ha, sorry still with my awesome boots (new rock neptunes) which i wear ALL THE TIME

i'm 5'8 MHAHAHAHAH *cough* *hack* *wheeze*.

so no more questions? not even a serious one?
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Have you ever been told you look like dani filth?

What do you think of Buck Angels?
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i had to look that up, no never, should i be insulted? i reall don't know;
I think buck angels is just another person, a man who happens to have a vulva.

EDIT:i'm wondering If I've inadvertandly killed the topic of the week...
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how would you feel if you looked like brad pitt?
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how would you feel if you looked like brad pitt?
Brad pitt with body dismorphia? that don't impressa me much.
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I would still hate myself, honestly though i never thought about it if i was a hot male, kinda provocative to think about...
No, i would still hate myself, maybe even more becasue i was a handsom man and that would be even further of my ideal of being a pretty women (no cracks about walkin down the street).
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Hey I would hate myself too if I was brad pitt because I would be that idiot that was into Scientology.
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I think I could live with being that millionaire idiot who is fucking Angelina Jolie and was into scientology 
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I think I could live with being that millionaire idiot who is fucking Angelina Jolie and was into scientology 
Well I did forget about Angelina Jolie I guess that dose equalizes Scientology and  yes he makes money but think about how much money he wasted on Scientology crap.
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they both like ayn rand, so.
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so I would like to fuck Angelina Jolie but brad pitt did it instead

I don't give a fuck about no ayn rand or scientology
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@ DietCoke: honestly? becuase as far as i'm concerined, my body is disgusting becuase i can't stand it's masculine features.
Well, I can understand that, I've known a few people who've gone the same route and generally feel the same way.
Are you considering going on Hormone therapy or undergoing gender reassignment surgery?

just to be a little bit obnoxious... Which restroom do you enter when you're out dressed fem? Has it ever just slipped your mind and you rolled up in the men's room and posted up in front of a urinal catching everyone's eyes?