HEY BEAR WITH THE BEGINNING OF THIS BECAUSE THERE IS MORE BETTER STUFF DOWN (medieve thinks storytime is not a good way to start a post ​)

Let me tell you all a little story...

It was a dark and stormy night in September. A boy and his lady friend sat in his car, talking. The boy hoped this night would never end, for in the morning, she would return to her school in a city far away. At about 1:30 AM they decided it was time to go inside. They stepped into the large, dark house. The girls mother was away for the weekend, so they had it all to themselves. They began to kiss and moved upstairs to the bedroom...

Not going any farther than that, sorry. But let me tell you, these two kids. They're in love. And they used protection. JUST SO YOU KNOW.

Well, around a month later, the girl came home to visit again, telling the boy she had something she needed to tell him. She referred to it as a 'big surprise.' He was pretty excited, not just for the big surprise, but to see her again.
She arrived early in the day, but the boy had to work. So they made arrangements to go to a concert later that evening. When they met up, he held her hand and they entered together. They propped themselves against a wall and the show began. Youngsters were moshing and throwing down, while the older people attempted to enjoy the music. This couple, however, was not impressed. The boy looked at his girlfriend, "Man, this band is terrible."
She smiled and squeezed his hand, "Yeah... and I'm pregnant."

So basically what I am saying is... Drule was right in the 'what's on your mind' thread. I didn't want to say anything to anyone for a while still, but I'm pretty excited and... yeah!

We sat down yesterday and discussed this and decided that we want to keep the baby. I'm financially stable (and her mom is rich) and we're both pretty good human beings (don't judge me by my posts on here, they hardly represent what I am truly like.) She's in school but I'm planning ways to get around that, and do everything possible to allow her to continue on her life as normally as possible.

This morning we told her mom, and a few of our friends. I assume everyone I know will know by Wednesday. And... so with a little push from Mamamack (who has been counseling me on this (along with steel, chef, bort and panda (thanks guys I really appreciate it))), I decided I should let you all know too.

Mostly I am bragging but I am also looking for input on things I should take into consideration that I may not have already. Panda and Mamamack both really got me thinking alot but I am sure there are other things I'm missing.


So yeah #1 Dad or what???

Sarah, I'm so happy for you! really!!

You do know making this topic means you gotta let GW pick the name, right?

But really, this is surreal! to see little VB grow up in the internet world and then BOOM he's a man.

I'm glad you're both in agreement over what to do. I hope you guys are happy forever! I can't wait to see photos of little Sarah Jr. growing up ^_^

edit: actually I lied. I hope you never visit GW again (or like once a month) once you have a kid. It'll be much more fun to hang out with your KID.
Man, how does it feel to just say that in your head? Your KID

EDIT: CONGRATULATIONS

I just have to ask though... how did it happen? Were you just that 1% time where the condom didn't work?

You know, I really don't know. Maybe it broke.

But you know, there is something that makes you say HOW DID THIS HAPPEN as soon as you find out. I mean it is pretty clear how it happened but I still said it. I think it scared her a bit and made her think maybe I was unhappy. But it's so far the opposite.

And yeah, you guys can pick the name. I will subtly suggest it to Meaghan while she's drugged up giving birth. Or I will sneak off and register it or however you do it. TOO LATE IT'S ALREADY ON THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE!!!

are you sure it's yours

Congrats man.  Hope everything works out for you!

Obligatory name it Foget joke.

I'm glad you did this because I was about THIS CLOSE to spilling the beans. I hate keeping secrets.

Anyway, you have my biggest congratulations. You're on your way to the big wild world of parenting and trust me, you'll enjoy it. You and Meaghan should come down for 3-4 November and we can all celebrate together. I don't know you outside of the intrawebs but just the idea of a new baby always makes me smile.

To fill in the rest of the forums I basically shared a tiny part of my experience as a parent with VB to help give him a better perspective on what is happening right now and what will be happening in the near future. And I'm glad that I was able to get your brain thinking but, like I told you on IRC there are times when you'll have to shut your brain off because you'll go BONKERS.

One request, though: DUE DATE PLEASE. Kids usually don't arrive on their due dates but it'll give us an idea of when to expect your little bundle(s) of joy... wait a second... if you're finding out on 18 October... I'm not an expert but if you conceived in September and found out in the middle of October that should put the due date roughly in the middle of June. My birthday is 11 June. WEIRD.

Also, it may be tempting to find out the sex of the baby during the ultrasounds but give yourself the extra surprise and don't do it.

Again, congratulations. And if there are questions I'll do what I can to help.

I just have to ask though... how did it happen? Were you just that 1% time where the condom didn't work?

Accidents like that happen more often than people think. Check out my avatar, for example.

Wow man, congratulations! Being a dad is one of the greatest honors a guy can have, and now it's your turn. I wish you and her good luck!

Great now your baby will be named Dongs :[

Also this is totally unrelated to being like a GOOD DAD or whatever but you're just 19 right? And probably not married? If thats the case are you planning on getting married now that you know she has your child?

Yeah, I am going to be 20 in January. And no we're not married. I don't plan on doing it because of this. I didn't plan on doing it for a while still, but I think this will definitely speed that up, because I don't like the idea of being a parent out of wedlock for a long time (lol traditions)

congrats on penetrating the vaginal barrel 

and...

congrats on creating a vb junior!   :thumbsupbuddy:

Thanks guys.

I said it on IRC but I should clarify that the condom we used was in my wallet for years. I think since I was 15ish. SO...

Also, mamamack, when is the best time to start looking into doctors (and pediatricians, even?) and when will they be able to tell things about the baby, etc?

This is huge pal. I am really happy for you and know you'll be a very good father because you have been almost DISARMINGLY RESPONSIBLE lately. You're also a pretty good guy and I can't really think of anyone at GW who could do better than you!

But man, shit like this makes me realize I am an adult now and the same will be happening for me soon. Man, ugh.

Thanks guys.

I said it on IRC but I should clarify that the condom we used was in my wallet for years. I think since I was 15ish. SO...

Also, mamamack, when is the best time to start looking into doctors (and pediatricians, even?) and when will they be able to tell things about the baby, etc?

oh.

well then your condom expired then, thats why.

Congrats man!!

hope you enjoy being a parent.

do you want a boy or girl?

Uhm, well, doing it in the middle of the night isn't advisable.

The first thing to do is, if she has a family doctor, go pay him/her a visit. The family doctor will be able to put you in touch with an OB/GYN. You can start looking into a pediatrician right now but you won't need it until after baby comes and you have to start thinking about immunizations. If you want a midwife now would be the time to start looking, too. Get signed up for any parenting or birthing classes as soon as you can.

Alternatively, thumb through the yellow pages and look up OB/GYNs. Call them up and talk to the receptionist. Ask about how long they've been in practice, whether or not they specialize in problem births, things like that. Or ask friends and family if they have any recommendations about doctors. The biggest thing is to make sure that your girlfriend is completely comfortable with the doctor because he's going to be doing a number of things to parts of her body that you probably don't want to think about.  The other thing you should ask about is where your prospective OB/GYN would want Meg to give birth. If you're not comfortable with the hospital then you need to find another one. There will be blood work done at various stages of pregnancy just to make sure everything is going all right. And, not to sound gross, but every doctor's appointment after the confirmation of pregnancy will involve a urine sample.

If the pregnancy hasn't been confirmed through blood work then that will be the first thing that happens. I don't think OHIP covers this but it's not a terribly expensive test. Depending on the doctor you use you may wind up having an ultrasound very early on. For me I didn't start seeing the doctor until I was almost three months in and didn't get my first ultrasound until almost 4 months in. I recall asking whether or not the technician could determine the sex at that point and she told me no because it was a bit early on to get a clear reading. The last ultrasound I had was 25 August and Autumn was already engaged and curled up so much that the tech couldn't see it then, either. Whether you find out the sex or not is up to you (please don't). Your first ultrasound will usually be for measurements, confirmation of the due date and to check and see just how many babies you're having.

I had to search the internet but I found the website with the weekly calender I used to track pregnancy progress. There are LOTS of these things out there. http://www.pregnancy-info.net/week5.html Just scroll down to check out the other weeks of development.