Well, the problem with getting a job for me is that I need an ID. I had mine, but lost it, and I need money just to get a new one! I can't really ask/expect money from family and whatnot because my family isn't exactly rolling in dough. Therefore I need to somehow come up with cash just to start making some.

Haha, thanks, I really do appreciate the help, guys, even though it appears I didn't need it from the start. I was born shy, and my shyness seems to have been blown out of proportion.

And I guess that it could be that I am, in fact, afraid of social rejection. I just especially noticed it shortly before I made this topic, since it's Halloween and there's alot of people visitting my house, so I just retreated to my room.

this right here is exactly what people with your illness do. you try to rationalize your laziness in all sorts of different ways. what is your alternative then? to not ever get a job? i'm sure your parents would be more than willing to offer up some cash if you're telling them you need it to get a job. you could even tell them to think of it as a loan and that you'll pay them back with your first paycheck. an id card can't possibly be that expensive. worst case scenario your could sell some stupid fucking videogames and animes at a pawn shop.

No, no, no. I have begged and pleaded my mom for some cash, and its all been for naught. My mom's in debt as it is as well. I've been incredibly well-prepared to go back to work, just I don't have my ID back yet.

what the fuck is with these worthless replies, seriously. this is why people hate posting on gw. an otherwise ordinary topic about a common medical issue gets fagged up by a bunch of idiots who desperately need to boost their e-cred with their totally hilarious zingers.

Hey, I happen to like TFT's worthless replies.

get a job. even with a really shitty one you'll still feel a whole lot better about yourself. routine exercise and omega3 pills also work wonders for your brain and your self image.

if none of the above helps then seek professional help and consider taking medication.

sounds like you got.... some experience on the subject


also yeah you guys are idiots if you're serious about TAKE PHOTOS WE'LL PRAISE YOU.  that really has nothing to do with this type of thing!  most people who had HORRIBLE SOCIAL PHOBIAS were perfectly normal looking!

anyway, i know a thing or two about THE SHAME OF BEING A COMPLETE FAILURE, and konix is basically right.  get a job and you will feel better about yourself.  it will also force you into social situations and probably make you better at them.  i don't really exercise much, but i would also suggest righting your schedule if it is wrong (when i have been the most depressed, i always slept till like 6-7pm and then kind of rolled out of bed and really wanted to go back).  it makes you feel so much better about the day and THINGS in general if you are able to wake up early and kind of see a different part of the world than you would at night. what exercise i did get, though, came from biking, and it also helped.  you just kind of feel better about things when you get some exercise and tire your body out, and it helps if you enjoy the thign you are doing too.  i have no experience with things like omega 3 but who knows maybe they help too!

also maybe try writing about it.  not like a LIVEJOURNAL but more like a private one, for yourself.  this is great because writing analytically about things gives you more perspective than you have just thinking about them.  for a while now whenever things have GONE SOUTH i will maybe sit around and write about them and how i feel about them and invariably by the time i am finished i will have figured something out about the situation or its effect on me that i probably would not have realized had i just thought about it.  idk there's just something in the process, for me anyway, that is revealing.  give it a try

also yeah stop with the gay replies thanks!!!


by the way, what?  i don't think you need cash to get an id, and even if you do, it's not much!  first of all, i know what jobs ask for; a legit id (driver's license, state id-- seriously if you don't drive just get a state id, theyre either free or very very cheap), orrrr a copy of your birth certificate/social security card, and some form of photo id.  even your high school id would do; just anything at all with a photo and your name on it, plus your birth certificate and ss card.  you should definitely have these lying around the house!  there's pretty much no excuse for you not to be able to get a job.

i think that might be the case if the problem is related to physical self-image, but this sounds more emotional/intellectual or whatever.  like dressing better only helps if youre just feeling bad because you look like shit.

It's 16 dollars here, plus 7 for the Driver's License. That's a grand total of 23 bucks. Well, I just talked to my mom, she's actually going to loan me the 25 dollars tomorrow! I really have taken all the advice to heart, and I will not deny, I am particularly lazy. And yes, it really has helped me a little bit. Thanks, guys.

i think that might be the case if the problem is related to physical self-image, but this sounds more emotional/intellectual or whatever.  like dressing better only helps if youre just feeling bad because you look like shit.

I think this is probably a huge factor right here. I feel like I need some new clothes, however of course, comes the money problem. However, like I said, that'll hopefully be resolved.

I used to have the same problems you did. And the way I cured it was I joined the military. Consider it.

yeah uhhh, no don't do this