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I feel lucky to be a guy, I can plainly see all the pressure put on girls in the media and society to look their very best and to me it doesn't really matter. I'd much rather be with a nice, average looking girl with a bit of meat on her than an up tight blonde with a perfect body who's a complete bitch that can play the washboard on her ribcages.

Way I see it, everyone needs to stop giving a damn

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you really shouldn't be so stressed out about shit like this especially at 15.. I'm sure you're beautiful just the way you are. I don't know what kind of advice I can offer but all I can really say is I encourage you to open your eyes to who you really are. Don't let thoughts like this consume you.
Last Edit: September 08, 2009, 05:09:10 am by Brad

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mm, well, having had eating disorders for 3 or 4 years now, i'd have to say that it's not really about losing weight or achieving the perfect body. often it starts that way, but it becomes a mental disorder when you stop caring about health, looks, or others' opinions, and it's more like an addiction to losing weight. it's about control. even when life is out of control, you can have this one aspect where, with a little will power and determination, everything goes the way you want. it's like you realize "wow! this is MY choice. i do what i want-- i decide not to eat, and i see the results of it. i can control this." eventually, it starts controlling YOU (in soviet russia). your weight gets dangerously low, and  you tell yourself "okay, i can just decide to eat. i will control this and make myself gain weight." but when you try, you feel sick. your body rejects the food. you feel disgusted with yourself. you can hear the voices in your head--why are you doing what others tell you? who cares if it's not healthy? this is your control, right? and it gets to be something that you can't control.

i've dealt with this for years, being in and out of recovery. i lost 25 lbs in the past few months, but my therapist has been encouraging me to go into recovery. it's tough, and i often feel like it's not really what i want... but i have to trust others now because i've realized that my own opinion is not always right. i mean, i have seen myself as fat when i was 70 lbs and 5 feet tall. bah, it's all so complicated. i wish i could stop feeling these things and just be comfortable with my body, but it is sooo hard to do that. >_<

I'm really sorry to hear that. And I see what you're saying about control and everything, and that's probably the usual case for people with eating disorders.

Why I think my friends are particularly affected by the media, though, is because a lot of my friends are performing artists and working in the entertainment industry, so there's pressure to look "perfect" from what we see as a "workable" look. It's really hard to avoid being very critical of yourself when you're constantly being evaluated "honestly"...for example, I have very vivid memories of a talent agent referring to me as "Chubby Girl" and pointing out every flaw with my body (even flaws I didn't know about) at a time when I was 7 lbs underweight. When you're constantly under that pressure, and when you see people around you working who are stick thin, it becomes difficult to say "I'm a healthy weight, and real men and women find me attractive."
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As said, media standards are insane. Anyone who believes these standards to be correct should
not be able to get any kind of plastic surgery. Or maybe just get shot for idiocy.

I think I'm too fat, so I go to the gym and changed my diet to something more healthy. I don't
want to look like any thin fag on TV, it just makes my life easier (I've actually gotten more
self-assured and socially ept by losing weight).  I wouldn't do plastic surgery for any of this,
because it's fuckin' useless.

On the other hand, if you actually hate how you look or suffer socially because of how you look,
it should be an option. Live as thou wilt.

Just don't think having a plastic face is going to make you pretty or interesting. It won't.
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i've met this individual in person as a guy and then as a female, it's really fucking strange. 

http://www.myspace.com/stop_fucking_me

i have no problem with gay people or transexuals, but i DO have a problem with those who put such a value on vanity.  this person is the definition of vain.

wait so, that person is a dude? I'm confused.

My biggest problem is asking myself, what if I found out the girl was a dude IN bed. hmm....
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wait so, that person is a dude? I'm confused.

yes, originally.
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don't judge a mtf for being preoccupied with her image
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I fucking hate ladyboys and its not a prejudiced hatred either if thats your thing and you're blunt with it then fine.

But I hate fucking stealth cocks that try to trick people into fucking them and at the last minute go "OPS I GOT A PENIS". Its never happened to me because I don't do all that one night stand clubbing/whoring shit but I've heard of a few people that fell for it and that shit is awful.
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its awful until you realize your into ding dongs
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don't judge a mtf for being preoccupied with her image
"Her"? Why are they even referred to as "women", when they're clearly not? They're just delusional men with dreams of becoming a female, so they go ahead and get all of that surgery crap, take female hormones medication, and then go out to walk outside and try to talk as "cute" and "girly" as they can be to not screw up. A shemale named "Carla" obviously had the original name of "Carlos" back before going shemale. ​

TBH, I'd rather be friends with a gay guy (because with any guy I can already put walls up since I'm not into them) than a fucking stealthy transexual who uses the illusion of female beauty to make you think "they" are women. Disgusting as fuck.
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I fucking hate ladyboys and its not a prejudiced hatred either if thats your thing and you're blunt with it then fine.

But I hate fucking stealth cocks that try to trick people into fucking them and at the last minute go "OPS I GOT A PENIS". Its never happened to me because I don't do all that one night stand clubbing/whoring shit but I've heard of a few people that fell for it and that shit is awful.
I don't think anyone else here has been to that part of the world

I am pretty sure a "ladyboy" doesn't have any surgery or anything tho and they just dress up like women, so it doesn't really have anything to do with this. also a lot of them are probably forced into prostitution or something, but if they're not I think they are pretty funny for tricking sailors who are just DYING to get away from all the dicks for a little while

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"Her"? Why are they even referred to as "women", when they're clearly not? They're just delusional men with dreams of becoming a female, so they go ahead and get all of that surgery crap, take female hormones medication, and then go out to walk outside and try to talk as "cute" and "girly" as they can be to not screw up. A shemale named "Carla" obviously had the original name of "Carlos" back before going shemale. ​

TBH, I'd rather be friends with a gay guy (because with any guy I can already put walls up since I'm not into them) than a fucking stealthy transexual who uses the illusion of female beauty to make you think "they" are women. Disgusting as fuck.

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"Her"? Why are they even referred to as "women", when they're clearly not? They're just delusional men with dreams of becoming a female, so they go ahead and get all of that surgery crap, take female hormones medication, and then go out to walk outside and try to talk as "cute" and "girly" as they can be to not screw up. A shemale named "Carla" obviously had the original name of "Carlos" back before going shemale. ​

TBH, I'd rather be friends with a gay guy (because with any guy I can already put walls up since I'm not into them) than a fucking stealthy transexual who uses the illusion of female beauty to make you think "they" are women. Disgusting as fuck.

uh some people really are a gender that their body isn't. for example, one of my best friends, J, was born with ambiguous genitalia, and they decided to go with the boy parts. he grew up always feeling like he was a girl and his body was wrong. it's really sad, actually. he acts like a girl and all, but hasn't really "come out" as being transgender or anything, so i'm still used to saying "he" and "him" since that's what i call him in public (he prefers for others to assume he's gay or metro or whatever). but when it's just our close group of friends, J is "Jaz" and we change the pronouns.

EDIT: so yeah, physically he is a male but he dresses in a feminine way, styles his hair girly, wears makeup, etc... he's a trap lololol. but he's not some pervert guy who just wants to trick guys and feel cute. he's taking testosterone suppressants because he really just wants his body to be how his mind is. he'll get surgery later in life probably.
Last Edit: September 08, 2009, 10:15:22 pm by mkkmypet
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when it comes to ambiguous genitalia they should just always go with female as a rule of thumb
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I forgot to say one more thing..

I understand how women can be quite stressed over image problems and other types of responsibilities, but coming from my perspective, but just letting them know that I'd still be their friend regardless of how they look. It's not the image that's the most important, it's how people give communications a chance and share experiences toward another. Not the kind of guy who only judges by beauty..

Insult this post all you want, I'm just being honest without being cliched.

hey just wanted to say im sorry if i ever made fun of you, you made me see this issue in a whole new light :)
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uh some people really are a gender that their body isn't. for example, one of my best friends, J, was born with ambiguous genitalia, and they decided to go with the boy parts. he grew up always feeling like he was a girl and his body was wrong. it's really sad, actually. he acts like a girl and all, but hasn't really "come out" as being transgender or anything, so i'm still used to saying "he" and "him" since that's what i call him in public (he prefers for others to assume he's gay or metro or whatever). but when it's just our close group of friends, J is "Jaz" and we change the pronouns.

EDIT: so yeah, physically he is a male but he dresses in a feminine way, styles his hair girly, wears makeup, etc... he's a trap lololol. but he's not some pervert guy who just wants to trick guys and feel cute. he's taking testosterone suppressants because he really just wants his body to be how his mind is. he'll get surgery later in life probably.

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they're sinning against god FUCK THEM THEY ARE THEW ORST HUMAN BEINGS I THINK WE SHOULD KILL THEM ALL
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No, I just don't want to associate with any of them at all. My life has nothing to do with theirs.

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I wish that one day a scab would appear just below your genetalia that would itch and itch and itch until you would end up peeling it off just to reveal the pussy you've got hidden underneath and have your entire world cave in and then come back to this topic to realize what a ridiculous piece of shit you are.
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uhhhhhh

I fucking hate ladyboys and its not a prejudiced hatred either if thats your thing and you're blunt with it then fine.

But I hate fucking stealth cocks that try to trick people into fucking them and at the last minute go "OPS I GOT A PENIS". Its never happened to me because I don't do all that one night stand clubbing/whoring shit but I've heard of a few people that fell for it and that shit is awful.

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