Topic: Happy New Salt + What's on your mind 2012: CHILL YOUR HEAD (Read 116275 times)

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I appreciate Faust's approach. But I have response to his post:

I approach everything as an intellectual or strictly logical perspective. Everything. It's always been just a rule with me. I am of the firm belief that any 'good' belief can be reached through logic of some sort.

That said, I don't think its illogical to suffer a minor inconvenience, actively mentally deleting words that offend people from your vocabulary, to make people comfortable. But I think its annoying, and I think most people (myself sometimes) are a tad bit to lazy to do so, and I don't like to admit mistakes when I suspect even a technicality in my own favor for being logically sound. And I know its not the same thing saying "I'm sorry that word offends you. I'll avoid saying it." versus "I'm sorry I offended you. I was wrong to say that word." While the latter sounds more genuine as a apology, the former is the more technically accurate one in my mind.

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I know its not comparable, but they way I used to feel about the words 'bitch' and 'cunt' has never related to feminism or anti-feminism. I've always defended other more general purpose curse words/vulgarities, "damn", fuck", "shit", 'dick' etc. And merely included 'bitch' and 'cunt' with the rest of them. And that it was illogical to be ashamed of swearing. That it was stupid to assign a difference to shit vs poop. That the offense was arbitrary and pointless. There are oddly enough, psychological benefits to cursing for the swearer. Though, I read that was BECAUSE of their taboo nature. They literally have a pain killing effect.

Anyway, I actually never really included 'nigger' or 'faggot' as a curse in my mind. IDK why I made the separation for those and not bitch and cunt for certain. But I think its because both of those words also had a more 'general utility' like the rest. 'Bitching' namely as synonym for complaining. And 'Cunt' as really just the gender swap of 'prick' as a 'I don't like you, fuck you' insult.

I always thought of the finger wagging over any cursing came from "the man" (though this isn't the term that actually came to mind) and the overly traditional/religious. And I think I've mentioned my (admittedly illogical as far as I can tell) admiration for the rebellious. So I embraced cursing in all forms as the most painless (for me and arguably others) way to be rebellious.
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Vellfire, I have a serious question to ask you and I'm sorry if it comes off as insensitive or stupid.

What is your opinion of calling a woman a bitch if she is acting cruel? Like not as a "you are a woman and thus inferior" but like as a female equivalant of "bastard." Like, obviously I wouldn't just go around saying that to women, I'm just wondering what you think of that word used as a direct insult to one woman who's being a jerk.

I have a feeling I already know what you'll say, but I've heard a lot of people of all genders use it that way and never got the impression that it was used as a sexist term in this manner.

Of course it's sexist, it's a sexist word with sexist connotations.  If a woman is acting that way, call her a jerk.  There is no excuse for using gendered insults like this.  By using a word like bitch, you are explicitly gendering the situation.  You aren't saying "hey, you're being a jerk", you're saying "you're being a WOMAN jerk" and there is no reason for that.  Bitch will always mean "you are a woman and thus inferior", so use a different word.


e: Warped, if you're looking for rebellion, consider the fact that feminism IS rebellion.  You are literally rebelling against the structure of our society when you fight against patriarchy.  And it feels so much better than saying hurtful words.  And laziness is never an excuse for hurting people, you're better than that.
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Jerk is a pretty 'tame' word though. I'd probably just use "you're being a shit head" or something that still has bite but isn't gendered.
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Actually bastard is pretty tame as well.
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triple post: Bastard is unisex. But for some reason always considered male when used as an insult. hmm.
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Shit head is pretty good, there's plenty of things to call people without having to result to slurs.
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incorporate these words

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I am so incorporating Boontockle into my every day speech.
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edit PuppetMaster, think nothing of my post! i don't think anything of you really, i think my tired post is more about the second paragraph = weirded out that you have a problem thinking of a way to call out a woman, huh whats the problem why gender word... oh thats why... groannn im really tired...

think it this way. if somebody is acting like an asshole or treating you like a selfish, hedonistic human scum then he OR she is such. there's no point trying to gender-relate stuff like that. i found it bit odd that you had to ask that PuppetMaster but i'm gonna assume that you're wondering about the association part of insulting people.
idk example, if the girl i'm dating is ditching me over for some other guy or she is dating other guy(s) while you are dating her without mutual consent then she's not a "bitch". she's being a opportunistic, she is on the look out for someone better, she's not being mindful of your feelings, she's not telling you the truth/hiding her motives etc. like you can relate on those things right? because they are universal. injustice, insensitivity, greed, bad person traits etc are never gender related. some models of acting in relationships in culture can be similiar in culture but that's more about cultural gender culture.

this is a lazy tired post but still. no matter how white trashy or shallow your hot blonde gf is, it NEVER warrants bitches and whores etc. dudes do that a lot apparently and it's bad.

actually writing that second paragraph was kinda funky because i'm thinking that in finnish terms and we don't have he or she in finnish. results: you don't ever need one anyways. get THAT! hah! but we do have uh like POSTMAN FIREMAN BESTMANMANMANMAN and that's an interesting discussion to have about.
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I guess I was more asking about the association part. That and I've just heard so many girls say stuff like "My english teacher is such a bitch" that I find it kind of hard to always associate that with the sexist connotation. Also, I never really thought about how weird it is to have gendered insults.
 
EDIT: Haha, I just read your edit bonzi_buddy. I find it kind of amusing that you thought I was trying to find an acceptable way to call out a woman.
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I guess I was more asking about the association part. That and I've just heard so many girls say stuff like "My english teacher is such a bitch" that I find it kind of hard to always associate that with the sexist connotation. Also, I never really thought about how weird it is to have gendered insults.

Well, I've discussed it before but internalized misogyny is a huge problem.  Women raised in a misogynistic culture tend to absorb a lot of it.  Women aren't immune from doing misogynist things.
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yyyeahhh.  we have those too but idk if somebody called somebody a whore (closest to bitch) then that would be REALLY harsh/sexist thing to say everywhere over here. ohh we do have bitch too but who bothers to say that in finnish, it's equally sexist. word cultures.
still, uh you might not want to read about rapings and the judgements related to those over here, people are constantly really angry about how lax the punishments are. also again trust me, you never really need to indicate all the time whether the spokesperson is a woman or a man. :^B finnish, the klingon feminisn...jk jk groannn i need to sleep, yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwnnnnnn. i think calling a guy a grimdick is a pr nasty attack don't you think. yawnn tattoo pinochio in groinal area, bonzi's dream... zzzzzzzzz, flips around twice real fast in sleep, ends up in back right away again... fajgsgfg agf9gg psoting becomes difficult...
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I hear ya, Vellfire. Not to be a boontockle, but it's still probably going to be a while before I get offended at every use of the word, if I ever do. I just kind of know that's not what they're trying to say and it's our culture's fault, not their's for using it. I will try to refrain from using it, though.

Another quick question. What do you think of the term "bitchin'" as in "awesome."

And bonzi_buddy, I can say with all honesty I have never heard anyone use the phrase "Grimdick" ever. It kind of sounds like a bad metal band to me, actually.
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I approach everything as an intellectual or strictly logical perspective. Everything. It's always been just a rule with me. I am of the firm belief that any 'good' belief can be reached through logic of some sort.

Don't take this the wrong way as I know you're a great guy based on what I've seen of you, but I was pretty much like you in my yesteryear. Paolo is pretty much the way you describe at the moment, and always has been. However, he has Borderline Personality Disorder, which leaves him considerably distanced from understanding appropriateness a lot of the time, as well as being severely emotionally underdeveloped. I'm not accusing you of this at all, understand - I'm not saying "MATURE UP" or "GROW UP" or any of that bullshit. I'm just mentioning this to help you clarify my opinion on why I feel it inappropriate to approach this from a solely intellectual standpoint.

I'm not saying my thoughts here are definitely 100% correct, but my view of what you're saying largely comes down to maturity. Not intellectual maturity, but emotional maturity - there comes a point where you realise that many topics (while totally acceptable for academic study and debate) transcend that when they approach the realm of reality and people's actual lives.

Eugenics is something that can be intellectualised - in fact, good ol' Belross made a name for himself back in the day with his controversial intellectual postings on the topic. The stuff he came up with was incredibly well thought out and interesting, as was his theories on trans people. However, the one thing they didn't actively consider was the practical reality of application - things he was saying were actually hurting people who were around at the time. To him it was abject theory, an interesting side jaunt into fascinating topics. But to others they related to the stark realities of their own lives. The debates took place in the old TOPIC OF THE WEEK forums however, wherein debates like that were actively encouraged - nothing was off the table.

I hope I don't seem arrogant here, I totally can understand how I'd be perceived as this, and considering the amount of time I spend arguing AGAINST anti-intellectualism I probably seem like a hypocrite. I don't believe that any topic is OFF the table when it comes to debate if you're in an academic environment or debate focused grouping. But in the social sphere concerning interactions between people on a more casual level it comes across as cold and distant to approach this as if it is a topic that even merits debate.

This debate wasn't about the abstract concept of word meanings or the philosophy of vocabulary itself. It's about actively causing harm to others around you who you're choosing to socialise with. It isn't theoretical or academic - it's reality itself.

Warped: again, I'm not trying to claim superiority or anything in this, in fact I'm one of the last people who should get to do that given the way in which I've carried myself when it comes to this shit during my life. I'm just explaining my thoughts on this topic.


PS: I don't disagree that good beliefs can be reached through logic. I just feel that some truths are self evident and effectively shouldn't need to be justified. One of these in my opinion is the idea of not harming others without valid reason.

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I hear ya, Vellfire. Not to be a boontockle, but it's still probably going to be a while before I get offended at every use of the word, if I ever do. I just kind of know that's not what they're trying to say and it's our culture's fault, not their's for using it. I will try to refrain from using it, though.

Another quick question. What do you think of the term "bitchin'" as in "awesome."

And bonzi_buddy, I can say with all honesty I have never heard anyone use the phrase "Grimdick" ever.

You don't have to be personally hurt by the word, what's important is knowing that it hurts others.  You don't have to hate it yourself to quit using it!

I'm conflicted on bitchin'.  It'd help if I knew more about the history of it.  I don't really hear it all that often, but it's a pretty positive word so it doesn't bother me offhand.  I'd have to give it some more thought as to whether or not it's a good word.  I'd rather just stick to "fuckin rad" myself.


Also grimdick rules.  That sounds like a badass compliment to me.
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Persecution is persecution

Women are persecuted against I do not know how it feels to be turned down by a job because I'm a woman but I can understand WHY it hurts them because I have also been persecuted.

The gender and race specification is irrelevant in that perspective. It is relevant for ANYONE willing to understand feminism and the persecution of women. You cannot act like people not like you are completely ignorant to that. That is just another form of predjudiced and you're doing the same damn thing you're complaining about.
 
When you talked about the mishandle of rape, why do you think the court systems let that shit happen? Just because mysogonism is allowed or you have stupid fucking people devaluing femanist arguments so they can file lawsuits that are totally arbitrary and a manipulation of the law? SOME TERRIBLE WOMEN do that shit and it is the idealogical same thing as dropping a coffee cup on your lap at mcdonalds and suing for it. It ruins womens rights for other women.
 
IF femanism took the other perspective the "If I can't change shit then rail on the individual being predjudiced to me or ignore them" it would be allowed in society. I would much rather watch some women dog cus a mysogonist or punch them in their fucking faces then women wholly being belittled because of extremist feminism.
 
 
For the hundreth fucking time no one is saying that those words should be used. They universally should not. This is a comment that those divisions should have a different approach and not this al sharpton shit.
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When you talked about the mishandle of rape, why do you think the court systems let that shit happen? Just because mysogonism is allowed or you have stupid fucking people devaluing femanist arguments so they can file lawsuits that are totally arbitrary and a manipulation of the law? SOME TERRIBLE WOMEN do that shit and it is the idealogical same thing as dropping a coffee cup on your lap at mcdonalds and suing for it. It ruins womens rights for other women.

Read about rape culture, because you don't actually understand the situation here.  Here's an intro:
e: i mean this link, but i'll leave the other one there too
http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/2009/10/19/rape-culture-101/

http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/tag/rape-culture/

If you google rape culture you'll find more about it.


e: And no, persecution isn't persecution.  Unless you're willing to realize the ways in which the oppression differs between groups there is no way to even begin discussing it.  Stop lumping shit together that isn't the same.
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also read this http://www.shakesville.com/2010/01/feminism-101.html
useful to know what feminists think when you talkin' about feminists.
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