people don't "fall into categories".
I'm not talking about people, but about different types of oppression. We may hate all of them evenly, but they're not the same. When you examine their origins and underlying causes, you'll find that they're different. And that's why there are people who suffer from racism but at the same time participate in misogyny or homophobia (both are major problems in the black community in the US). That's because suffering from one type of oppression doesn't necessarily mean you understand them all.
That was why we had a problem with what you were saying in the other topic. Nobody ever said your opinion "doesn't matter" because you're a straight, white man. What we said is you can't truly expect yourself to be innately familiar with a concept such as misogyny unless you've experienced it firsthand and have the intrinsic realization that it's not something that's ever gonna go away. And that's something that Vellfire and Faust were able to attest to from their own personal experience.
I never claimed to be an authority on shit. I don't care enough. I don't study it but if I don't agree with someone who thinks they are an authority I'm going to say when I think they're full of shit and being oppressive with their sensitivity.
You shouldn't be so dismissive of what other people have to say. That's precisely why we've continuously tried to explain what I just mentioned: you can't consider yourself to be as or more knowledgeable on what it feels like to be oppressed in the way that women or gay people are, just because you've suffered from some other kind of trouble or had a rough childhood or anything like that. Those things are all terrible, but they're also all different.
As for us or me or anyone else being "oppressive", I think you should refer to mkkmypet's post which sums it up very well. Nobody's forcing you to do anything. There's nothing wrong with someone telling you that they don't like what you're saying or what kind of words you use. It doesn't have to be a one-on-one conversation for a black person to tell you he doesn't want you using the word "nigger" in casual conversation or ironically or as a joke. Same for other words. That's not false sensitivity, that's a genuine concern. People aren't going to pick this fight with you out of a false concern.
It's up to you to make the decision whether to act on it. If you don't, you're ignoring people's concerns and risk making those people angry or disappointed. Nobody's censoring you. But if you decide not to put in that minuscule effort that people ask of you, you can't expect them to like you.