I don't get why people are equating this with attention whoring.
Really, this is the type of stuff that you don't talk about with anyone, or maybe with just a few select people. And that can actually be quite a serious problem. Not being able to talk about something makes you eventually want to scream it out. The internet is a place where you have a higher degree of anonymity, allowing you to be more open. So how is it surprising, at all, that people would use the opportunity to come clean and get an outsider's take on it?
To some degree, yeah, it's just asking for attention. But that's really not always a bad thing. People need others to give attention to their problems before they can put it at rest. That's why we came up with things like school councilors: because being forced to keep your problems to yourself can be very detrimental to your mood, psychological well-being, and, eventually, your health.
The whole "NOBODY CARES ABOUT THIS" bit is a little harsh and, well, off-the-mark. If you really don't care, then that's fine, but it shouldn't be too hard to get that people just want to be heard every now.
I have to reply to this and just say no.
Really, this is the type of stuff that you don't talk about with anyone, or maybe with just a few select people. And that can actually be quite a serious problem.
no. this is the sort of thing you ABSOLUTELY keep private and with a few people. this is not like saying "yeah I had a drinking problem a few years ago" off hand during another conversation. this is deliberately informing a group of strangers about shit they had nothing to do with and quite frankly could not care about. and don't lie to me, you really don't actually care about this. it was shit that happened years ago. if she was saying NOW or if Strangeluv said his father beat him NOW, you would, but this is all after the fact. thus it is the definition of attention whoring; saying shit just for sympathy from others.
this bizarre concept everyone has that all private matters must become public and therefore magically tolerable is antithetical to the entire school of psychology. of course people should acknowledge their problems and horrible things that happened in their past. everyone here knows my father died when I was very young. but do you know how? do you know what type of cancer (yep, cancer) it was? no. it's because I deal with the details in private and you just know "hey, he had a hard time once". that's the NORMAL thing to do.
topics like this are attention whoring, sorry. psychologically and socially they are also poor choices to make, because believe it or not, some things really should just remain between you and those close to you.
I don't see what's wrong with this topic. There's a 20+ post topic all about STEEL, but no cares because it's an important thing. I think these testimonials are fine. But only on GW could a big deal be made about something like this. C'mon, they are just trying to get these things off their chests.
do you not see the difference? let's not say STEEL IS MORE IMPORTANT, that's not what I mean. that topic isn't about me, it's about something ongoing in my life that people are at least remotely interested in.
imagine the topic, though, was about how I HAD cancer. let's also imagine it's not
interesting. that's a big part of this. I don't like to suggest people need to spice up their life stories but this topic is full of people urging essentially bullet lists of the bad shit in their life and substanceless "wh...whoa".
basically everyone is viewing this as unburdening but in reality it's nothing! we don't know you well enough for it to be a burden! that's kind of the big deal if your argument is how healthy it is.
telling strangers online really personal shit!=deep psychological cleansing.
also as far as how exaggerated mkkmypet is being, don't care. she shouldn't tell us this stuff anyways.