Alright, well at least I know that I am not the only one on this forum who posts their personall problems for answers.

so the predicament goes like this, I lived with my girlfriend of 3 and a half years that is until we split for the last year. We had a life together, a partnership, and a family pretty much just consisting on some pets together. However, we moved to another town a few months ago because she was going to go to school there. However a bout 2 months ago now, wow, what a long time, she broke up with me. However we continued to live together and fool around. Mistake 1.  Before we broke up, we pretty much partied and got drunk with my neighbor a few years older than me downstairs. I had to go to work in the morning so I often went to bed, and she would stay up and party with the friends. However, she started getting distant and in the midst of it, we got in a fight and she broke up with me, returned my engagement ring and everything.

I was looking to meet somebody else and I did, and started talking to this girl, coincidentally, my girlfriend at the same time was about to propose we get back together. I agreed, but hesitantly. Some things had happened since we split up that I wasn't happy with, but I tried to let it go because we weren't together. However, the whole time i was jealous, insecure, and bitter. This went on for a couple weeks. She went away to see some friends at school for halloween parties, I had to work so i didn't go. Then she told me that was going to move out, IOW, leave me. So I started to talk to this other girl again. A few days after she moved out, I started seeing this girl for real.

Meanwhile, my girlfriend was realizing what a mistake she made, and realised it wasn't me that was the problem, she had been depressed for a while throughout our relationship and she thought it was me that needed to change. That and combined with her bad reaction to alcahol where she can tend to get mean, she ended with me when she got mad, and did nothing but party for like a month, making it hard for her to sober up and realised the reality of what she did.

This girl I'm seeing now is great, but I'm 20 and shes 17. She likes the music I like, not a gamer but likes games, she used to play gamecube, she plays guitar like I do, likes to party, and she's really fun. She has some flaws and she triggers a few pet peves about me, like shes a bad speller, and not very good in school. I feel like sometimes I'm at a different intelligence level sometimes. But shes so nice to me, and shes good looking, and overall pretty cool.

And now I'm torn. I love my ex more than anything, and watching her destroy herself because she has nothing going for her, she dropped out of school, and that she's so sincerely wanting me back, breaks my heart. I just want to go back and pick up where we left off, and finish what we started, we were supposed to get married in just a few weeks from now, and now its all gone.  I know i didn't wait as long as I should've before I started dating again, and it feels like if I had just waited a few more days, everything would be back to normal.

Any thoughts, and not from the peanut gallery?

Polygamy.

give one each a test drive, whoever has the sweetest nectar wins.

Move to Utah, where you can be happy with BOTH of them!

...Or make them both fight for you in a topless jello match. Winner takes all.