Topic: 3 year relationship done (Read 5978 times)

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lol fuckin' nerd i hope u meant that in the worst pun-y way possible

Damn straight I did. If you did an FFT of the userbase here it'd be shaped like a dong.


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I mostly agree with Faust. Mainly about the everyone should just cool down. Except the thing about free speech. (if you think about it this isn't about free speech, its about what you can say insulting/attacking/trolling/goading on this forum with out SOME form of reprimand, not exactly the same thing)

Earlchip and Ed - I just don't think mince's trolls/goading/insults/attacks are really that interesting and is pretty much just destructive and highly irritating. :/ Sorry. As i said before 1/5 of his posts are ok, but that's only when he isn't being a troll. He should be held accountable for his shit. And to be honest its Dada's choice really.

Barack Obama - isn't gargonherd a woman?

Malad - I'm sorry your topic has been hijacked. :( :|

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There's a right way and a wrong way to end a relationship, and to do so without even trying a fix (even if it's ill-fated and will end in the breakup anyway) shows a callous disregard for your partner's emotions, and incredibly devalues their worth.

yeeeeessssss

faust hit the nail on the head. thanks faust. And its not just trying a fix either. Even if there will be no fix and a fix isn't possible. Atleast communicating on it and coming to some sort of conclusion helps with some of the pain imo. Just dropping off like that is pretty fucked up.
 
 
Edit: I'm not getting in this inri shit again. Rape joke was def in bad taste and he should know that but inri is being inri and he was trolling again.
 
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No, you people shut up. Velfarre's walls of texts weren't anything except the obvious ("malad she doesn't like you, don't bother" except in 800 lines)  and as a bonus she was taking offense at him illogically acting on feelings instead of pointing it out (which I did). Because only women are supposed to have all those marvelous and complex emotions, right?

Malad she probably wasn't even worth the effort in first place, get this in your head. Unless you're a social fuck up too.

Like, this is pretty harshly worded but imo as far as the gist of it goes. Her reaction was pretty harsh and he does sort of have a point.
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"look at how ridiculous dada is being! he's trying to blame me for everything!"
I'm not trying to use fucking sophistry on you. you said "you people made her leave". I am the only one here who regularly posts with mince being banned and Ed only coming back to talk to his pal, ERGO THEREFORE CONCORDANTLY you're saying I made her leave. that's all I was saying dad.

wow, you sure went quickly from "it sure is too bad vellfire left" to using her departure as a way of vindicating yourself.
I don't think I did this, why are you doing this to me? you're the one who keeps accusing me of thinking of myself as a feminism expert who doesn't have a clue what feminism is. neither of those things are true, and the only reason I have to continuously mention my sympathy is so YOU don't keep accusing me of being okay with the bigoted things in this thread. you're probably not even doing this intentionally, but there you go, there's a summary of your posts up to this point. kinda odd how you can write so much about me and my shortcomings but cannot verbalize any valid argument about why you'd ban mince. get some better time management skills

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I can't speak for her but I can surely see how it matters more that people are defending this guy. inri's posts you might be able to ignore because he's insane, same with ed, but when random other people start either defending them or saying they can't see anything wrong with it or that you should be able to "take a joke", that's when you're talking about an endemic problem.
but no one's defending what mince and ed said, at least not the awful shit.

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countdown to earlchip or someone else blaming vellfire leaving on her being a big drama queen.
don't put those words in my mouth you dick. I didn't say that and I will not say that. I don't want her to leave, I made that clear. if I don't want mince to leave, how do you think I feel about the idea of vel leaving?
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I mean you're the guy who didn't understand why vellfire wasn't really interested in having a discussion on feminism here on salt world. you claimed "we're all experts on feminism here" and totally missed how such a debate would be a just a bunch of guys who never actually dealt with gender discrimination giving outsiders' perspectives on the matter.
how did oyu never stop and think "wait maybe he already knows that"? too busy thinking heh what a fucking idiot. VEGAN eggplant parmesan? what a dope and a dingus
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don't worry dude racist trolls are a dime a dozen
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Reply #89 and forward;

i don't have time to check the posts now but ALERTPOST/DESPERATIONREACTIONPOST, holy shit bring velfarre here by legs and let's talk this out. i really thought nobody was telling her to CHAUVINISM? HEH, JUST IGNORE IT/DEAL WITH IT rather than maybe this was a bad case of provocation. MAYBE. i think everybody is 100% behind her despite maybe ed or farren's (oh. there's dietcoke but he's a dualclass anarchist/bro, a respectable manly combo in purple orangurans eyes   2;47 :^B) view that agree more on generalizations of stereotypes or whatever.

baby please come back hoooome!!!!/i heard it thru the dadavine not much longer u will beeee miiiine/seriously let's all calm down... let's not fight...everybody looks amazed as purple orangutan smoothly replicates the dance routines of Beat It...


EDIT and before you get up against me Farren, i'm just mentioning youn only because you seem to think that just because we don't seemingly agree that gender generalizations can't be true in any way, you can reason that we have no grasp or experience of what the reality is with relationships. that's garbage and u no it. ofc they can apply but the reasons for those are more complex than you bitter experiences with your local "bad apple of a woman" (apples? how about we drop the whole fruit thing and notice that women like any people have all the spectrum of personal differences as any men).
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yeah I'll just stop posting if that is somehow making velfarre leave. I'm not gonna change dada's mind anyway

FUCKCRYPT, that's not all he was. like this is correct
Even if earl is defending someone from being banned, he's doing that because he seems to hate anyone being banned ever, rather than agreeing with what they were saying about Vell.
except that it's not that I oppose anyone being banned ever. if some random person signed up and started posting racist stuff I'd really have no qualms with having them banned. but that's not mince

not saying his posts like that shouldn't be punished. actually, I'd prefer if dada had acted sooner. but permabanning this guy is too much
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i don't have time to check the posts now but ALERTPOST/DESPERATIONREACTIONPOST, holy shit bring velfarre here by legs and let's talk this out. i really thought nobody was telling her to CHAUVINISM? HEH, JUST IGNORE IT/DEAL WITH IT rather than maybe this was a bad case of provocation. MAYBE. i think everybody is 100% behind her despite maybe ed or farren's (oh. there's dietcoke but he's a dualclass anarchist/bro, a respectable manly combo in purple orangurans eyes   2;47 :^B) view that agree more on generalizations of stereotypes or whatever.

baby please come back hoooome!!!!/i heard it thru the dadavine not much longer u will beeee miiiine/seriously let's all calm down... let's not fight...everybody looks amazed as purple orangutan smoothly replicates the dance routines of Beat It...
bonzy you're the best. I'll just send all my posts to you from now on and you can filter them through a purple orangu perspective
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if you accept some people, you de facto exclude others. if you accept people who make gross and hostile misogynistic/racist comments you are pushing out others who have zero tolerance for that kind of bullshit. i find it fucking gross to be around and if you don't understand why people like me have zero tolerance for it then you obviously just haven't experienced being the brunt of it. there are plenty of spaces where people like that can say whatever they want. misogyny is very accepted (=the norm) in most spaces. on the other hand, there are very few safe spaces. which kind of space do you want to be?
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you're the one who keeps accusing me of thinking of myself as a feminism expert
actually those were your own exact words. unless you were actually not talking about yourself when you said "most of us are experts on feminism and I'm offended you'd suggest otherwise".
and the only reason I have to continuously mention my sympathy is so YOU don't keep accusing me of being okay with the bigoted things in this thread.
but YOU ARE!
sure, you may think inri's wrong but here you are, defending him again, saying he should be unbanned. not because you never want anyone banned or because you agree with him, but because you think his misogyny is acceptable as long as he's an otherwise interesting or valuable member. you even said that if this were some random, blank slate new member, you'd be in favor of banning him. how does that not perfectly describe "being okay" with these bigoted things?

Edit: I'm not getting in this inri shit again. Rape joke was def in bad taste and he should know that but inri is being inri and he was trolling again.
"trolling" means never having to say you're sorry. it's like the "dog ate my homework" excuse, except for basic human dignity. it's also one of the easiest, most convenient excuses for racists to say racist stuff: just tell them you "weren't really serious", or that you were "only joking", and that this somehow makes it all okay that you just called someone a nappy-headed ho.

if you can't get this then you've got a major empathy problem.
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fucking canaanites.
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fucking canaanites.

Don't get me started. This place is full of fucking canaanites, as are most places, yet there are so many rules protecting them that I feel HINDERED in being able to show my TRUE BIGOTED PREJUDICES towards them :<!

I find it ironic when a canaanite would attack another group of people, given their lack of worth in G-d's eyes!!!!
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Ok, I was looking at my post history from 2009 to now and I really do get why you people are upset with my posts. I guess I've become way too bitter, pessimistic and racist due to me being a failure again in the real world when I had the chance to be someone else and I'm now spewing it on the internet, and that does make me feel kind of sorry but...


exactly how was anything I posted in here misogynist? Is it because I keep bickering velfarre because of her trivial tl;dr posts and she happens to be female, so obviously it's because I hate women for being women? I don't do that. I just don't believe velfarre has enough experience with "RELATIONSHIPS" apart from turning down everyone who has shown interest in her (HEH THIS CREPPY FINAL FANTASY KID TRIED TO TALK TO ME) to be posting in a "relationship advice thread".




I don't follow velfarre around.  I don't keep refreshing her post history so I can harass her.  She just posts stupid shit sometimes and I like to point it out. OOOH I'M A WOMAN I'M BEING REPRESSED sorry nope.


If I antagonized malad it's because being nice to him on the internet won't make his life any better than it is right now. Only time and finding someone who is actually worth obsessing about will do that. He can watch that rocky balboa speech if he wants motivation (it's pretty good).



Also earlchips stop defending me every time I get banned. It just keeps the drama going (but it's pretty funny)


Also dada please don't ban this account because I want to read the subsequent posts without a proxy.
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don't earl. even we ain't exactly in the same side... *earl's looks blank, then face drops in astonishment as bonzi grinning flips his hidden character card to reveal a... a RENEGADE!?* just a joke, there's no goods and bads here.
if you accept some people, you de facto exclude others. if you accept people who make gross and hostile misogynistic/racist comments you are pushing out others who have zero tolerance for that kind of bullshit. i find it fucking gross to be around and if you don't understand why people like me have zero tolerance for it then you obviously just haven't experienced being the brunt of it. there are plenty of spaces where people like that can say whatever they want. misogyny is very accepted (=the norm) in most spaces. on the other hand, there are very few safe spaces. which kind of space do you want to be?
groan, this is a good post (looks like i need to delay my sleep more) and we're spearheading right into what i wanted to bring about: i'd argue that those reasons weren't the reasons we had defended mince in any way. i find his... antagonism to OP fucking disgusting but we got two overlaying dialogues going on here which makes this topic complicated: if inri should/needed to get banned and who can get banned in a forum (or in a society in general). groan, these weren't exactly the overlaying convos but i mean that i really believe there's lot of misunderstanding+not enough clarificitation here because i can't see how else my more general discussion/more abstract level discussion lead to believe that lot of us is defending inri's action in the name of eg forum activity. in fact, even mine and earl's reasons to defend (hell, i'm CONSIDERING not defending anything for example) inri is totally different. 

fuck i had a pretty good idea about whats going on and i swear i'm not trying to blow/dodge this convo into a general discussion.
but has anybody/all considered here for a second that maybe you don't know exactly what the other person knows about injustice or feminism?? are we even using exact same definitions or language here?? because i'm pretty sure we didn't get to the part where we could explore/explain properly what eg i meant about what there is to consider about banning anybody on principles like this in general (there was some good convo i had with panda some time ago which i wanted to talk about) - add to that that some of you already think that i'm fuckin' disgustin', how can i keep ramblin' on... when the case could be that i might ACTUALLY need some more explaining of your (reader's) points about what actually makes this the most justified ban in the whole universe??

like i don't think there's complete of ANYBODY'S side here really. i don't want anybody take up in arm/get on back hoofs for that btw!! i'm trying to get some sleep first!! but if you have patience with me then surely you see what a lovely pup this goblin is...

i only want Velfarre to know that this has got to be a mistake and that she needs to know that ASAP. If she still wants to drop SW in favour of SA for example then sure but not at least without complete understanding of the situation, you understand? but i definitely understand if she felt bad since chauvinism is so permeating everywhere even in smallest things + velfarre is pr. emotionally invested in the issue and reads & understands the issue well + we SEEMED to defend mince or suggest that velfarre to just stomach that shit. idk i didn't mean it that way for sure.

for all i or you know earl, your post (or mine?? fuck i thought that i needed to elaborate my point right back then but i was brainfogged) might have been a little insensitive against this background you know!!? i don't know if this is the case, i'm not judging anybody, fuck i need sleep first and i dont' want you to aggressively defend your stance atm either since that leads to more bickering on whos dunnit and who dont. everybody calms the fuck down right now!!

edit groan i mean keep discussing ofc but don't attack please, it's useless. i awfully left this post without explaining about the overlaying convos that got mixed and now we're all rl ichigos fighting for our lives to save rukia in soul society. i'm sure you all bros understand this imaginary perfectly and nod in agreement immediately, the perfect language wittgenstein only could dream of... even better: right before youre about to launch an assault, listen to hi-fidelity copy/320 mp3 of Marvin Gaye's What's Going On the song on good soundsystem (okay the 192 mp3 is enough) and recite his beautiful voice in ur minds before posting. brother brother brother there's just too many people diein...mother mother mother... become soothed, lose anger... ps: fuckcrypt please don't start throwing darts at my image in your room from now on due to this post. good health, xo, bonzi buddy.
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greetings friends

i have come here today to show you a video showing werner herzog drinking cough medicine out of a slipper

http://youtu.be/hiBv1pNR0do

this is apparently the most immediately active topic on the forum, and i think the most prestigious topics deserves an equally royal piece of audiovideo information
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Also dada please don't ban this account because I want to read the subsequent posts without a proxy.
no. you can read them as guest.
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i didnt mean inri was misogynistic, i was thinking of ed but he's not the one who was banned... i'm going to step out of this conversation because im new, i stepped in only cuz i value the stuff on this forum but wanted to express my reservations about the racism/misogynistic attacks on ppl that seem to sometimes happen. i think it's a good sign of a community when a conversation like this happens  cause usually ppl dont want to deal with it at all.
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please change my username to tubberculosis_haver_90901 please
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edit: wait nvm do not change my username to tubberculosis_haver_90901 i do not have tubberculosis i was just coughing on a cookie
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