Topic: Do I have a serious anger problem? (Read 2338 times)

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Over the smallest things (my girlfriend and I getting into an argument, my mom saying something to piss me off, or something minimal like that) I get absolutely furious, I start punching, elbowing and kicking everything in sight, and I don't feel better until I've physically released that anger. One time I got angry and my best friend (who I might add is an amazing MMA fighter, he's not in any leagues or anything, but he is really good) let me take it out on him. My friend is 5'9", 200 lbs of pure muscle, where I'm 5'7", 140 lbs of skin and bones and not a fighter at all. I was so fucking angry at everything going on around me and I just channeled it into fighting him and pounded his ass into the ground. I'm kind of worried that as often as I get angry over small things, and very angry over bigger things, and as violent as I become, that I have a serious problem. I've had so many bruised elbows, busted knuckles and sore feet and knees from that stuff, along with holes in the wall. Two holes are from where I threw my desk chair at my wall because the dog chewed up my TV remote. That's not normal.

Do I need anger management or just a creative output for my anger?
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Get anger management.

Or find a way not to be angry. I heard marijuana helps you relax.
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dude you either need therapy or to try to control it yourself.
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Beat off more often, lay off the coffee and spend that energy wisely. It sounds patronising but I find myself counting to 10 a lot these days. I don't think I'm quite at your level of bouncing off the walls style anger but I get angry lots and my main philosophy that calms me down is a voice that says "don't be a victim, don't let this get to you" i.e. whoever or whatever has pissed you off has got nothing over you if you don't act the victim. Sure it's not always possible to shrug things off like that but it is a rough guide that I follow, maybe you should too.

I think tolerance takes a lot of practice too. Some people are really annoying.
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the anger isn't a problem it's your reaction to it. when you're angry you actually don't need to get rid of the anger as fast as possible, the thing about letting it fester is it rots faster
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physically venting the anger is known to make you angrier and more susceptable to shit like letting it get to you. You shouldn;t vent it or let it out like that, you should look for a more calming alternative, because it's much more beneficial. When I get angry/upset I chill with some space-music and a bottle of wine. Maybe try that?
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The fact that you reckon that you have anger issues is a good first step. It is up to you to deal with it.

I can't really help you here because I DON'T HAVE THE ENOUGH IMAGINATION OR EMPATHY to know what it is like to feel the way you do because I'm like the least angry person ever. It is almost impossible to get me pissed off.

I think the key is that I don't care about things, because I realise life is absurd so it is just pointless to get distressed.
However, I guess you DO care about stuff, which means you actually give stuff some value. When you value stuff, you are already overrating that stuff, because you're attaching some degree of emotion to it. So when said stuff dissapoints you or affects you, it pisses you off because you value it.
In my case, since I don't value stuff or at least not so profoundly, I can deal with it so lightly.
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physically venting the anger is known to make you angrier and more susceptable to shit like letting it get to you. You shouldn;t vent it or let it out like that, you should look for a more calming alternative, because it's much more beneficial. When I get angry/upset I chill with some space-music and a bottle of wine. Maybe try that?
If you don't vent emotions (such as anger or sadness(by crying)) you gain stress.
Stress is what fucks people and gets them diseases, such as cancer or mental disorders (motor neurons).
This is what happened to my uncle so I know.
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yeah but there's ways to vent anger without physically lashing out.

a slow burning of the anger is better than trying to get rid of it all at once.
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yeah but there's ways to vent anger without physically lashing out.
Speaking it all out.
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Wow, and I thought I had anger problems..

Definitely get therapy, man. The way you're responding to, well, everything certainly is not normal!
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What is your age (this is important)
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Sounds pretty childish to me.  I know I can't just tell you to NOT GET ANGRY, but wrecking shit like that is a pretty childish way of dealing with it.  I'm not an angry person, but I've had points where I've acted physically destructively, and it really just feeds the anger.  For me, playing guitar is an awesome way to vent.  I just crank the distortion and play something very angry.  DRUMS are a good tool for venting as well, and you don't necessarily need musical talent to wail on some drums.
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I don't have a guitar anymore unfortunately, and everyone would bitch at me for playing it too loud, which in turn would make me more angry. No drums either.

And I'm 19 to whoever asked my age.

And the past couple weeks, in which it's happened more, is probably due to stress. In a period of two weeks (most of it actually happening within a day) I almost got fired from my job, my grandmother fell and broke her leg, my other grandmother had a stroke, my girlfriend's grandfather (who is really awesome) got hit by a train and was hurt, my uncle got skin cancer, and I've gotten into numerous fights with my damn hard-headed girlfriend over little things and she always keeps on when I tell her to stop, which pisses me off, and last night was almost the end of us, over something small. The grandparent incidents all happened the same day I think.

So, stress may be part of the problem, but even when I'm not stressed it still happens.
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This is gonna sound pretty self help bs, but you have control over everything you do.  So if you don't want to be angry, don't be.  Just logic it away.  Thats what I do.
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Serious anger issues? Did... you really need to ask? Isn't it apparent?

Yes man, go get help. Call around and get yourself enrolled in anger management. If nothing else, read up on anger management on the internet... surely there's some valuable information there.
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So you kicked a 200lbs pure-muscle-dude ass? Dude no way.

On a more serious note. Anger is sometimes related to stress and shit like that. First of all, you must discard any physiological issue, so go to a psychiatrist or to a neurologist. Then, relief any stress or anger with some sort of activity, physical or mental, but something that exhausts you.

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Supress the anger until it turmoils into a tumor of sorts, and then surgically remove it. Get's rid of 5 years worth of anger in one go!

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Last Edit: August 18, 2008, 01:24:52 am by Bakafura