Bravo, sarah, bravo! I hope the name you choose isn't regrettable and can't easily be made fun of.

Oh yeah he's calling the kid Bright.

I still think it is too fucking early.
Way too fucking early, and this job of yours (moving boxes and shit right) is not what I call stable, even if you could keep it for years. Her mom is rich, so fucking what? The idea is that you are able to be self-sufficient, and babies are expensive. Consider the number of times you'll have to go to hospital, buy more food, diapers, sleep very little time, eventually kindergarden (although I guess you're sending to public school ok). All this shit and more when you are still young and still haven't experienced enough, aren't conscious enough, aren't mature enough, aren't wise enough, etc.
Since you're not going to university I guess the expenses of having a baby is a bit lightier (if I were to have a baby now... fuck me, and I am older than you).
You don't have much of a choice though. Tough luck.

guys i already brought this up with him. while i hate being the one to shut down a point of view that is valid (and the one i personally still think is the right choice), if vb wants to throw away his dreams (unless BABBY AT 19 is part of those dreams and life he hopes to have) thats up to him and while i can't personally say CONGRATS or whatever i'm sure he didn't make this topic for life advice anyways.

nah because the situation is not that for considering an abortion. The other choice is to give it for adoption but it is a very hard shit to deal with.

man my post is a dickpost but I seriously can't bring myself to say congratulations and actually mean it because you are 19 and so is she and asdffffff.

Me neither, actually

I blame my mom

I mean, I congratulate him with the assumption that this is what he really wants; to have a kid at 19. Personally, personally, I think having a kid that young is a lifefuck, and if I had a kid that young (and I'm 20) I'd consider my life pretty much ruined. But I'm not him, and it's his situation, so if this what he wants, and he and the mother really think they can handle it, then more power to them.

Congrats on the baby, but how did you own property? I need to know, because I was considering doing that.

Okay, well just to set things straight, I don't move boxes and haven't since like April. I am a guidance counselor at a high school, and I've signed a contract to work from September 2007 until June 2009, so that is pretty stable. The contract can, and from what I've heard so far, WILL be renewed if I want to keep the job. I get paid a pretty good salary, and I have around (last time I checked) $45,000 in my bank account. I don't waste a lot of money.

Abortion has been taken into consideration; it's not for us. It doesn't make sense for us for any reason beyond the fact that we are 19. And I see kids with FAR LESS, who are far younger than us taking care of babies. They don't have any support systems beyond their grandparents who are being forced to pay for everything, because they don't like the idea of giving up their grandchildren.

We've got great friends and families (well, her side) who will be able to give us any support we need. Whether it's looking after the baby for a few hours so we can sleep, or if it's just HANGING OUT or whatever. We've got that.

As far as the future goes, neither of us planned for a baby, but it's not something that will ruin our dreams. First and foremost, my plan is to keep Meaghan's goals as the centre of attention. I will be doing everything possible to make sure this doesn't affect her schooling. That will probably include me moving near her university and commuting an hour to work every day, but that's fine with me.

And most of all, we have the most stable relationship of anyone I know. We're not one of those couples who fights all the time and breaks up once a week. We're like MARRIED OLD PEOPLE in that respect. She knows I do my thing, and is fine with that, and I let her do her things. And we're fine with doing each others stuff, too. I mean, hell, she even knows who half the people here at GW are. We're incredibly open and honest with each other. She's been there for me through the worst times, and I've been there for her (although she is pretty good and doesn't have a lot of problems with life). And mostly, I love her with all of my heart.

We're both responsible enough to do this, and again I can't think of any reason beyond NINETEEN (almost 20) why we shouldn't do this.

Besides, I have always wanted to have kids pretty early. I was thinking more like 23 but whatever, I can deal with this.

 

edit: Tigress save up a lot of money and don't take out any loans if you want to buy a property. That's really all the advice I can give you because it's really complicated shit. Lots of paper work. Also if you're doing a payment plan, like a credit card, put down lots on the first payment, and double whatever they plan is per month (so instead of $600, pay $1200.)

edit again: oh also I have tons of experience with children (not so much babies but they won't be that way forever). I am really good! That is one of the reasons I am excited to have a kid, too. I met a lot of great kids this summer, and I can't wait to have a great kid of my own.

Edit 3: Hospital care and shit is free I live in Canada.

you...you do realize the 19 thing is a really huge deal and not something you can just dismiss because you've taken care of kids in a summer camp.

uggggggh I feel bad so I'm going to stop posting but you really didn't say anything that Trihan didn't say when he was justifying his marriage to an internet girl.

Like I said, I don't want to sound like an ignorant asshole, but I hope you're really not having delusions of grandeur with this whole childbearing thing here. Regardless of how you two might feel about the situation and each other, both of you are young as shit. Neither of you are likely even fully developed yet, and as far as society goes, you're just not ready yet (don't even bother with the YOU DON'T KNOW ME MAN spiel either, save it). While I'm not saying that you're fucked, no matter how much money you have, or how much you love your girl, or whatever, you're gonna have a rough time, man. You're just so young, and age isn't just a number.

But like I said, its your life, and you know your prerogatives.

If you really think you can take care of a child, all I can say is congrats. It's good to see good karma at work. After all the shit you went through in the last few years I'm glad to see something good is happening to you.

Tell us when she give birth so we can get the cigars out.

Congradulations! This is wonderful news!

Hey man as long as you can financially support a child this is a good thing. I've always said that I'll never have a kid unless I know I can provide for him/her- it's never really a matter of age like a lot of people make it out to be.

And you seem happy so congratulations.

man, i find it kinda funny how people assume that 19/20 is too young to have kids and shit and that you are FUCKED FOREVER if you do.

my mother had me at 21 and she's a legal aid and never even went to university. we've never been TOO RICH but not poor at all either (we make enough money that i can allow myself to buy an Apple desktop, two laptops, a 360 and various other shit).

so yeah it's not like having a baby while being young fucks you forever and ever.

Just so you know, having a kid at 21, twenty two years ago is a bit different having a kid at 19 now. The "My mom had me at X age and we're fine" argument is generally a bad one.